May 30, 2012
Simplicity. It exists in all of us. It abounds everywhere. Some see it, others cherish it, most ignore it. Smile. It uses less energy than a frown, and yet the majority of people choose to be sad than to be gleeful. Giving. Makes you feel recognized, you get appreciation and that is the most important need to your being. Love. Happens everywhere, everyone is capable of giving it, but it’s the commodity least given out by the masses of the world. Unfortunately, too many are taught to hate than to love. This world is in the mess it’s in, because that choice is happily made.
If you hate, you’re angry. Aggression is carcinogenic and/or can cause heart disease. With that in mind, you might wanna think about holding that grudge against someone. Emotions are like a continuum: On one end you’ve got happiness, on the other you’ve got sadness. This continuum is not horizontal but vertical. Happiness is at the top, while sadness lurks at the bottom. The better you feel, the higher your mood goes up the emotional continuum. That’s where the feeling of being at the top of the world is derived. When you’re feeling sad, you spirit descends down the spectrum, and cannot relate to anyone unless that person is or those people, are at equal depths. These abyss-like pits spawned expressions like feeling down/low, when describing sadness. After all, ‘Misery needs company’. Wallowing in pity doesn’t do you any favors, it just does your body harm. It’s virtually impossible to solve a problem by worrying.
I am a naturally happy person. This world darkened me. I allowed this world to darken me. Now I break ties with neg heads and chase my dreams. I recommend you do the same, if you want happiness, too. Leaving people you’ve known all your life or for many years, can be one of the most difficult things you ever have to do. You initially contend with fear of loss: That they are all better than you and that you need them because they’re so valuable. Regardless of what the listed benefits of you leaving might be for your happiness, you don’t stop repeating mentally what good things they may offer you, even though you (may) have gone your independent ways, aren’t in touch like when your friendship started and have become such different people that it really doesn’t make sense to remain connected. When you feel like you’re the person who’s got the most to offer in your circle of ‘friends’, it may be a good idea to look for new ones.
Failure makes you succeed. In Basketball for example, you can only become better by getting your ass kicked, repetitively. Playing against Michael Jordan makes you work up your d. I imagine the same thing in Football, when playing against David Beckham: Not the best day for your defence! Now, I understand this may make me come across as psychopathic and/or narcissistic. Most of my life, I’ve been secondary or an alternative to so-called ‘friends’. I was always in somebody else’s shadow and it didn’t stop until my mid-twenties. At 26, I said STOP – and never looked back. Most people want to use you unscrupulously or subdue you undignifying below them. I’m a peacock and realized my brilliant colors, at last. I broke out my prison because I’m that bird too beautiful to be caged in!
Sometimes in life, you have to break down to be built up. If you understand that, you’ll have no problems confronting failure ever again. Because failure is only temporary. What you do with it, that becomes permanent.
Happiness is the yearning to enjoy yourself, in whatever way you imagine. There’s nothing like living your life as your own person. Nothing. It is the most exhilarating feeling you can ever have as a human - because you’re FREE!
The happier you are, the more happiness you attract. The higher your spirit is lifted. A smile is contagious, laughter is epidemic and a good mood can improve a society.
At this point, I’m not gonna tell you what to do! What should I? Even God doesn’t: You’ve got free will. Being happy, you confidently tell the whole world that you know your value and won’t let it be diminished, by relating to pessimists. Like many hater however, you can also give the impression of your blissful happiness, by laughing forcibly while bringing this person or that thing down. And who would stop you? Go ahead! If your prerogative is to spend your finite time hating, best of luck to you! Or you could cut your losses, abandon negative people and abhor (their) evil forever. In doing so, you would commit to the continuous attempting of nurturing & growing YOUR happiness, regardless of situation, for the rest of your life. I’m on that path now, and what I can say, from my perspective, is that it’s worth it.
Happiness is life-enhancing because to attain it in the first place, you have to tell yourself that you’re worth it, which increases or validates your value. That’s why happy people always have so much to offer; they consolidate themselves in so many ways. True happiness comes from giving, it is found in helping people. That’s why I have no problems working as hard as I do for both my websites – yes, I’m providing value to people, but the gains I make from it, I couldn’t describe! Happiness doesn’t cut short another, in inferiority: A truly happy person appreciates value in others and does not perceive arrogance in humble celebrations of success. A hater reduces his/her quality of life by trying to undermine successful people due to his/her inferiority and/or insecurity. Haters don’t last. Lovers do! It’s only a matter of time for the hater to convert into a lover or be cancelled out by life.
A simple tip to become happy, is to do something. Motion creates emotion. The emotion you essentially feel when you’re active, is gratitude to be engaged. Why do you think so athletes and sports-enthusiasts do sports for decades, at least? If you’ve monetized your hobby, go find another one. Your world is only as small & finite as you imagine it. Think I’m crazy? OK, when Thomas Edison was attempting for hundreds of times, people thought he was crazy. Now, many take the existence of light bulbs for granted. Tell me who’s crazy! Boredom doesn’t exist. A person who is bored, doesn’t want to think of anything to do and/or undertake it. There’s no such thing as boredom in nature, write that word out of your mind now. (Yes, I AM telling you what to do!) Life is living. Living is progressive. To be happy - do.
HAPPINESS. Go create it. Successful business professionals often feel the more actively they work, the luckier they get. You create luck, you don’t just get it. Opportunity makes itself obvious to people who work on their dreams, and re-visits them regularly because these people are able to recognize her. Opportunity doesn’t give preferential treatment but knocks only once. If you’re too cool for school and demand a second knock because of your ego, by the time you open your door, opportunity may not even be on your street anymore.
Living gratefully is a good way to happiness. When you realize just how many blessings you’ve got, Nature starts throwing more at you because you’ve figured out the meaning of wealth. Material things can make you smile, blessings make you happy. If you don’t believe it, try it for yourself: Giving to others, unlocks the vital blessing to true happiness. So, you’re gonna have to become grateful, either way… and don’t stop giving.
I once typed give in a major search engine. I got over 3 billion search results. Then I typed take and got an additional billion more, about. Maybe that’s why true happiness is an endeavor for one’s self: The world will not find it!
Happiness is a decision: When you realize that you’ve made it through all your tumultuous eras and are still just as valid today, you can leave them in the past and consciously live in the NOW. Be happy & stay that way!
“He who gives to the poor will not lack, but he who hides his eyes will have many curses.”
- Proverbs 28:27
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