Fly

May 31, 2012

Only you can do it for yourself. No one can flap your wings for you. You have to jump off the cliff on your own. That doesn’t mean you won’t see other birds in the sky. Everyone who or everything that deems flight, reaches for the Heavens. To keep you company, to be on their way. It requires guts and a whole lot of faith. You put more belief in yourself than a shrink. And you constantly confront your fear.

Flight. It’s something so few of us do, although we’re all capable of it. Many believe it to be fantasy, others give up on it, too damn easy. If anything in your life is worth having, then you’ll have to put up a fight for it. And if you lose, you’ll have to fight until you win. It’s that easy. Funny how dumb we sometimes choose to be. Entitlement doesn’t exist. It’s a tough world out there, and if you want it – go get it! It is possible to learn flight from the get-go and just build up the pieces as you make a living for yourself. There are times though, when you’re falling through great depths – and the only thing you can do to stop it, is to learn how to fly. I belong to the latter group, despite having identified with the former for a long time. In order to save myself and prevent disaster, I resorted to flight: Barely able to run, I spread my wings and reached for the sky. I flew to make it. Now I fly to be free.

Your biggest potential, your greatest skill, I do not know about. Your best achievement, your largest victory, I’m not aware of. You can be your key ally or your worst enemy. No one can live your life for you. Since you’re reading this, know that you’re incredibly privileged, because you’re part of a minuscule, global minority who can afford the luxuries you take for granted! I used to complain of having bad shoes – until I acknowledged the destitute with no legs and then I shut the fuck up!

It doesn’t depend on the world for you to spread your wings. Humans are angels, on a test to see how well they can co-op without wings. Believe and you will achieve. People are not a confirmation of your strength: It doesn’t matter if what you’re about to do, has never been done before. After my second year at university, I failed a first year examination for the overall third time. I was broker than joke and struggled bad to keep up. That summer, I got kicked out. When I met the student adviser about getting back in, he told me I had a better chance winning the lottery (Yes, he actually said that.). I refused to concede defeat, opened up to the campus counselor and wrote my appeal to the board of the business school. A few weeks later, I got re-instated. I never informed the adviser because I didn’t need to: That was the single most powerful where I realized my capability to greatness and vowed to become self-dependent from then on. Fast forward six years and I’m running my firm, won a World Summit Youth Award Runner-up for developing a superior e-project, called ‘Mother Nature‘, that was chosen among 30 winning e-projects out of 630 international youth new media creations; scored a total 90% grade in a highly competitive Internet Governance capacity building e-programme for high-performing technocrats & government officials, under the Internet Society’s Next Generation Leaders course and am releasing a brilliant product of my competence of brilliant creative writing & illustration, this year. My hunch was right because it came from my spirit, and whatever your spirit tells you (if you choose to acknowledge it) is right.

Am I done? Nah, not as long as I live. Versatility complements success: You re-define your game when needed and stay fresh. We’re conditioned in this world to compete others. Unless you’re using competition to improve some part of yourself, it’s the dumbest thing you can do! Only you can breathe for yourself, how can anyone do it for/with you? Where is the sense then to engage in an activity, that only you can ensure your participation of – by yourself, against other people, so as to see who will ‘come out on top’? Doesn’t that sound stupid? ‘Yeah, I can only dead-lift 100kg, by myself, but I’ll compete with ya!’ I think most people fear truly being alone, by only being able to do things by themselves, that they throw themselves into competitive activities, to take some of that ‘sting’ away. What you don’t know, doesn’t have to sting you, though. Isn’t ignorance bliss?

What they only need to do is gather up all the balls they can muster and give themselves that push. They may crash off that cliff but if they, in their descent, believe in themselves, nature will be but all too happy to see yet another rising star. I’m flapping my wings already. In the race against myself, I’m doing good: I think I’m ahead! What about you, how far are you? If you is still kicking your ass, it may be time to give that push to yourself. Don’t worry about that unknown, the people there know it’s humanly possible. So jump! Fly! SOAR!

 

“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places in Christ.”

– Ephesians 1:3 (abridged)

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Acknowledge

May 26, 2012

As a teenager, I used to flex my calves anytime I walked past people by the side, whenever I wore shorts, to make them look bigger. I’m skinny & I’ve had lots of issues with my body type, ever since puberty. People in school would always laugh at my natural features: Long legs, thin arms and a tall frame. Growing up, I remember my parents struggling a lot to make ends meet. We never lived like the many affluent people of my school. We were always way below their spending-power. Family life was hard & I never really got stimulated by school. My spirit couldn’t stand the type of education: All scholastic, not creative. Skinny, young me had problems often in class & got poor grades, averagely. Apart from excelling in Fine Art, Sports & English, I sucked at school.

I used to expect negativity from groups of people I’d walk by. Feeling insufficient, not good enough and/or just not up to ‘their standards’ would make me anxious. Being one of the few black people in a German private school, I wasn’t everyone’s taste. I still get that anxiety from time to time. Paranoia.

I have a gap between my two front teeth and from a young age felt self-conscious about my ‘incomplete smile’, from a period a growing number of school-mates would notice it & pick on it. I am emotional, sensitive and could never really harness it throughout the bulk of my life. Though I’ve started, I’m still working on it today. It took me 26 years to realize that being emotional & sensitive is incredibly powerful. Self-teaching: When you win a battle, you remember how you fought.

I have a birth mark over a corner of my lips and my family regularly used to ‘tease’ me about having a characteristic of the supermodel, Cindy Crawford. Being male, I never really knew how to take that, and it caused issues.

I live very much in my imagination, ever since I was I was a toddler, animation used to fascinate me. Because animation is pure imagination, I sometimes had troubles living in reality when switching from imagination. I once placed a pin upside-down on a teacher’s chair and when she came in the class and discovered it, I couldn’t really distinguish the severity of the action in reality from the anything goes in animation.

I used to stammer from my childhood until my mid-teens. The older I got within that period, the more embarrassing it became to me. I got embarrassed because from the time it was first noticed, my classmates used to laugh at me and news spread quickly. Every time we would sit in class and the teacher would make us read a text out loud individually in turns, I would agitate loads all through the exercise, inside. When it got to my turn, I would just pause and not say anything until the stuttering inside me would recede and I’d be able to read fluently. I did that in conversations as well, regardless with whom. And people would be weirded-out wondering just what my problem was but I would just stay silent. I still do that, intermittently. Rather than pausing though, I try to think of alternate ways to say my words in order to suppress my stuttering, then just say it. Now I’m all grown up. I outgrew most of it, I suppose – but when I hear kids stammer, I can’t help but to feel related!

I used to play on the basketball team in school. One time, we had a championship with other schools and we played an important match. We were doing well until the last 7 seconds of the game where I was passed the ball, decided to go for a lay-up and traveled instead. The opponents won the game and the team never forgave me. Never having addressed that, caused a handicap mentally that knocked my confidence. I made other teams but never saw myself as a competent player again – I would prefer to pass the ball once it was given to me. My game has now changed & my ego is making me state that but the scars remain.

I love to dance! Ever since I was a kid I used to dance hardcore. As a teen, I looked funny often when trying to do what I saw in videos. I thought I looked good, but apparently reality & perception are two different things. Eventually I stopped perceiving myself positively and bought into criticisms of my wackiness on the floor. I would secretly drill hard on myself when I’d be watching videos but I’d never get up to my adopted, external standard. Disabled self-perception.

At about 12, I couldn’t do 3 push-ups. I was too skinny. I was ripped apart for it in class and that made me to always hang around with and compete against the more athletic guys in class, exclusively in sports. I felt I had to prove something to them. I’d be good at marathons, but would choose sprints instead, just so I could compete against the guys & prove myself! I would regularly lose (badly), but inside I’d feel a bit good for having done it with them. I still see ricochets of that in my adult life sometimes. The need to always have something to prove, to everyone but myself; for pains I suffered way back some time ago, tucked-in deep in the past.

Being skinny made me muscular. Being the dumb kid in class, made me work hard later in my studies. Being in education I couldn’t stand, made me dive into my strengths & interests. Being lanky, made me not stop dancing. Being indecisive and discouraged drastically changed my game. (Hello, Ego!) Being insecure, inferior & paranoid made me ferocious towards living my life. Being blessed & in touch with my feminine side made me gratifyingly love myself. Being a stammerer made me accept myself. Being imaginative made me confident in the world. Having a gap between my teeth, taught me how to smile.

We always hear about self re-invention, becoming the new you and re-engineering yourself. Personal development is good but what isn’t is when we’re conditioned to hate our ‘past’ selves and embrace our ‘new’ selves because that’s who we are now. And it couldn’t be further from the truth. There is neither a ‘new’ you, nor an ‘old’ you. Just YOU! When we start to see ourselves for the great big achievements we’ve earned, the things we’ve overcome, the behavior we’ve adopted, our ego takes over. And that creates problems. We start to only see ourselves for the changes we’ve made and/or gone through but not for the the great pain, hurt, tribulation, woe, sorrow, agony & misery we’ve endured, with all their negativity. One-dimensional monsters. How can we become one-dimensional, when we are truly multi-dimensional? We exist in mind, body, soul, spirit, art, time, literature, love etc, each of which combine not to make us one-dimensional monsters but PERFECT humans!

I am my pain. I am my healing.

I am the better moment. I am the painful memory.

I am all these things.

I am what I have experienced. I am what I experience.

ACKNOWLEDGE and you shall be set free. Because you never went nowhere – you were always you. Christina Aguilera’s Beautiful perfectly fits the bill here. When Lady Gaga appeared on Ellen, she explained her song ‘Marry The Night’ as the negativity you’ve had that is a part of you and made you who you are today. She was so eloquent, when she said people should not deny it as a part of who they are.

We are. We are our successes but we are also our failures. Acknowledging the bad, helps stabilize us in our perception, in our psyche, in our lives. Think & be positive, absolutely, but know it’s been the same you who went through your suffering. The discarded self, and there’s now no re-incarnated persona. We acknowledge our darkness. And that’s OK because Jesus saves. In the end, he will!



“Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” 

Jesus Christ, Matthew 11:28

 

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Become

May 18, 2012

I don’t take ‘No’ for an answer, every time I’m given one, I try to overturn it. I don’t let rules restrict me, if they stand in my way. Am I preaching illegality? No, but I’m definitely preaching a ‘whatever it takes’ attitude. You live only once, so why not do what has to be done, that you really wanna do? Lemme tell you something, this world is not impossible to overcome. As hard as it is, you can withstand it, if only you go about it in the right way. There are probably a few of them. I’m talking about mine.

Mine: I’m DRIVEN! Like the devil is chasing me? Is the devil chasing me? Yes, because he doesn’t want me to succeed. This is no conspiracy ish, this is a pledge. And you’re not pledging to me or nobody, you’re pledging to GOD! No one makes it out of this world alive so don’t take your mistakes seriously. We live in a time, in which it’s cool to be bad but it’s wack to talk about GOD. Well, here’s me gonna make talking about GOD cool! Every time, I had an extra painful moment, I suffered a lot. Today, I’m so hardened by all those experiences that I can’t imagine growing up successfully without them. I’m almost 30 – ’til date I’ve had about 5 Near Death Experiences. The only thing I can say about N.D.E.s is that they make you so much more grateful and make you appreciate life, for whatever it is. You don’t know how much you cherish your life until you risk losing it.

While I’m alive, I want to make all the dreams in my head happen. I will rather DIE TRYING than die without EVER having given it a REAL shot. A loser procrastinates. A loser always makes excuses for everything messed up in their lives and is never to blame. A loser finds every single excuse under the sun, in any idea suggested to him/her. A loser has no self-belief – just doubts. A loser can be gifted, but will never allow it to flourish because the loser cannot face DEFEAT! A LOSER CIRCUMVENTS FAILURE BY NOT EVEN ATTEMPTING IN THE FIRST PLACE! THAT’S WHY A LOSER IS A FAILURE!

I’m not a loser. I have failed countless times, that I don’t keep count. But I don’t give up. A few times in the past, I have given up – only to turn back again and give it another shot! It doesn’t matter what became of it, what matters is that I turned around and gave it another shot! I have done what I could over the past few years. It is what got me here. I am doing what I can, because I believe in the future. I believe in MY future and by me trying my best as best as I can (and trust me, I don’t joke), I will realize my dreams that exist in my head. They may not be exactly what I planned, I dunno what the future will look like but I have every faith in myself that whatever the world “throws” at me, I will overcome and make it to my dreams. BECAUSE I HAVE SELF-BELIEF AND BECAUSE I’M NOT A LOSER! Nothing that goes on in “the world” can be controlled. Everything that goes on inside you, can be, by YOU!

To be human, is to be gifted. There are two types of people in this world: Those who have discovered their gifts and those who haven’t. Not having discovered your gift, doesn’t make you a loser. I only discovered my gifts three years ago. And ever since I was a child, I always knew what my strengths were, the things I loved  to do but never took seriously. I’m not a loser because after 27 years, I turned around and GAVE IT ANOTHER SHOT! And now, I’m here. And that’s all that matters. The only people we ever compete with are ourselves. THINK ABOUT THAT!

Why am I writing all this? I dunno, I’m competing with myself to improve myself – even though I’m already good, because I’m gifted. And my gifts are my personal blessings from GOD. He already planned me out, you see? If you follow the same path, the only thing you need to do, is to unleash your blessings, to avoid being a loser. You’re already a winner, but first you must become.

“You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.”

Brian Tracy

‘Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour.’

1 Peter 5:8

FOLLOW JESUS CHRIST!


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Do

May 16, 2012

It doesn’t matter what economy exists: Boom or Bust, in the end it comes down to you to prosper. It doesn’t matter what time-frame we live in: Modern or Old, ultimately it’s your choice, to be. Everything you need, to achieve, is already in you. What makes you succeed in your goals or not, is your disposition. It’s not bad to admire people, but it’s horrible to not recognize yourself. There is no such thing as ‘elitism’ because as beings, we all have equal resources to work with, naturally. Even, a disabled person has a purpose. Even the disabled person serves a purpose. And it’s up to that human to acknowledge it. One thing we all share, is the most powerful tool in the world: The mind.
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It’s a fact that you can reach an attainment; whether you succeed in it or not, is up to you. No two situations are ever the same but in each & every one, a simple rule is always applied, if progress is to be commenced: You do what you can & try your best. This principle, you apply to every task, at every point along the way. It sounds easy, because that’s exactly what it is. However, the application needn’t become difficult, if you fear it to be so. Words are mighty, abusing them can negatively impact your life.

Nothing is impossible because the mind has imagination, and imagination lives in the unknown. If we all have it then, why do so many people fear attempting the impossible in their lives? Imagination believes in you, why don’t you believe in it, too? It makes no sense. You must do what you can & give it your best. The biggest need of humans, is to connect. Many dread to be embarrassed before others. Nonetheless, when you reach for your goals, there is no shame. Just a person realizing a dream.

It’s called going to work – on yourself. Is going to work peculiar? Do you laugh at commuters going to work? Anyone who does, is not worth to be acknowledged. So go after your dreams! Seek what you can & give it your best shot. The output is part of a sequence that only you know the final looks of – so ignore how modest its status may appear. Despite its great achievement potential & limitless capacity, the mind still requires us to start any engagement with a first step.

Use your imagination. It’s your genius. You will disprove yourself that you’re not one, when you begin achieving with & through it. Use your mind. Use your creativity. Think out the box. If you don’t know what a box is, you’re doing good, already. Any feeble start is an advancement to something colossal because it comes from your natural customization of the largest, worldwide power: The human mind. Hone into your strengths & likes, then develop your skills out of them. Work hard on them like you never had the gifts in the first place. Procrastination is the foe of imagination, fight it! If you have to do just one thing – do something. Whatever it is, just do it!

Live in your world – that means don’t compare anything of your life to other people’s. Learn what you can from others, but be grateful to be yourself. Stick to your plan daily & celebrate every little success. In time, you’ll realize you’re worth it. Then you’ll look back & be glad you proceeded on that journey with all the ups and downs. The mind & imagination feast off achievement. What that means, is the more you achieve, the less you feel anything at all is impossible. Do.

“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.”

Theodore Roosevelt

Disclaimer: This article is for motivational purposes. I do not accept any liabilities that may arise on your part, for acting on it. And I include this disclaimer because a blogger who doesn’t take legalities seriously, is only a conviction waiting to happen.

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