I’m a man and cannot tell women how to live. Only females can teach femininity. I know a bit about gender inequality, though & am outspoken about the plight of female victims of gender inequality all over the world. Gender inequality is a crime. It’s heinous and mostly perpetrated by men. It’s both personal & institutional, meaning it happens amongst people and is carried out by both the private and public sector. If I had a daughter, I won’t lie, I’ll teach her a lot of guy things so that she will be prepared for the iniquities given from males.

First of all, I think females should at least learn comprehensive self defence, ideally from an early age. Why? Because men beat and kill women and I don’t want that to happen anymore. If I had a daughter, I’m sorry but I would insist she learn how to fight, so that I can stop worrying about her safety as she grows up to become a young woman. Date rape, domestic violence, sexual assault & gang rape are all reasons females in the world should learn a martial art or two, to adjust to the grim reality of this world. A woman who can kick your ass is a threat to any man, even those who can fight and a lot of men avoid stepping to people they know can fight. That’s just the way a lot of men are: coward!

Secondly, work extremely hard to be the best at what you do. Women often have to work at least twice as hard as men to get the same recognition. Be the best so that you can rise through the ranks and order men around. Men respect authority and if it’s a woman who doesn’t take any bullsh*t, they respect her even more. Power is what humbles a lot of men. They subdue themselves to whoever’s powerful, because they want want to be a victim. It’s ironic because the people who victimize women the most are men. Be so good, nobody messes with you. Then you won’t have to worry about being victimized anymore. Nobody will challenge your power.

Another thing is that too few women are outspoken. This is commonly viewed as a weakness even though it isn’t. Men generally think that if you don’t speak out for yourself, you’re a pushover and they can get away with murder when it comes to you. Stand up for yourself, even when you’re scared! It’s hard but it gets easier with every time you do it. I like my women temperamental, with fire. I’m a shy, layed back guy so it’s a good mix. But these kind of women are only a minority and most women simply go with the status quo, even if they don’t like it. I understand that women often do this for the greater good of their family, so that they don’t suffer any worse but something needs to be done. That’s why I canvass for everyone to speak out for and help females to beat gender inequality because it affects us all.

Next point is solidarity. Females stick well together and form bonds with each other easily. They’re open socially, so they talk about a lot and clear up a lot of things verbally and get it off their chest. There needs to be a lot more of this. Females in every community should form unions, clubs, groups, societies and organizations to exclusively express and tackle their issues and well being. Thank God there’s now a UN Women body in the United Nations. I never thought I would see it in my lifetime. This is great but females need to unite all the time, wherever they are, as this counters the consequences of male only led administrations throughout much of the world. We need female organizations because that way, women strongly influence the policies accepted by the masses of the world.

Women need to build more businesses. In many parts of the world, entrepreneurship is largely a masculine thing. However, entrepreneurship is protected and promoted by governments because it creates jobs, cuts unemployment and contributes to GDP. Corporations are power and the more women can run it and primarily empower other younger women and females, the more women can balance the skewed arrangement of wealth distribution in the world, that is largely in men’s favour.

With these points above, females can tangibly change the world to a more gender neutral, productive & socio-economically sustainable eco space for all of us. This is the best way to not only adapt to gender inequality, but to ultimately beat it!


May 31, 2012

Only you can do it for yourself. No one can flap your wings for you. You have to jump off the cliff on your own. That doesn’t mean you won’t see other birds in the sky. Everyone who or everything that deems flight, reaches for the Heavens. To keep you company, to be on their way. It requires guts and a whole lot of faith. You put more belief in yourself than a shrink. And you constantly confront your fear.

Flight. It’s something so few of us do, although we’re all capable of it. Many believe it to be fantasy, others give up on it, too damn easy. If anything in your life is worth having, then you’ll have to put up a fight for it. And if you lose, you’ll have to fight until you win. It’s that easy. Funny how dumb we sometimes choose to be. Entitlement doesn’t exist. It’s a tough world out there, and if you want it – go get it! It is possible to learn flight from the get-go and just build up the pieces as you make a living for yourself. There are times though, when you’re falling through great depths – and the only thing you can do to stop it, is to learn how to fly. I belong to the latter group, despite having identified with the former for a long time. In order to save myself and prevent disaster, I resorted to flight: Barely able to run, I spread my wings and reached for the sky. I flew to make it. Now I fly to be free.

Your biggest potential, your greatest skill, I do not know about. Your best achievement, your largest victory, I’m not aware of. You can be your key ally or your worst enemy. No one can live your life for you. Since you’re reading this, know that you’re incredibly privileged, because you’re part of a minuscule, global minority who can afford the luxuries you take for granted! I used to complain of having bad shoes – until I acknowledged the destitute with no legs and then I shut the fuck up!

It doesn’t depend on the world for you to spread your wings. Humans are angels, on a test to see how well they can co-op without wings. Believe and you will achieve. People are not a confirmation of your strength: It doesn’t matter if what you’re about to do, has never been done before. After my second year at university, I failed a first year examination for the overall third time. I was broker than joke and struggled bad to keep up. That summer, I got kicked out. When I met the student adviser about getting back in, he told me I had a better chance winning the lottery (Yes, he actually said that.). I refused to concede defeat, opened up to the campus counselor and wrote my appeal to the board of the business school. A few weeks later, I got re-instated. I never informed the adviser because I didn’t need to: That was the single most powerful where I realized my capability to greatness and vowed to become self-dependent from then on. Fast forward six years and I’m running my firm, won a World Summit Youth Award Runner-up for developing a superior e-project, called ‘Mother Nature‘, that was chosen among 30 winning e-projects out of 630 international youth new media creations; scored a total 90% grade in a highly competitive Internet Governance capacity building e-programme for high-performing technocrats & government officials, under the Internet Society’s Next Generation Leaders course and am releasing a brilliant product of my competence of brilliant creative writing & illustration, this year. My hunch was right because it came from my spirit, and whatever your spirit tells you (if you choose to acknowledge it) is right.

Am I done? Nah, not as long as I live. Versatility complements success: You re-define your game when needed and stay fresh. We’re conditioned in this world to compete others. Unless you’re using competition to improve some part of yourself, it’s the dumbest thing you can do! Only you can breathe for yourself, how can anyone do it for/with you? Where is the sense then to engage in an activity, that only you can ensure your participation of – by yourself, against other people, so as to see who will ‘come out on top’? Doesn’t that sound stupid? ‘Yeah, I can only dead-lift 100kg, by myself, but I’ll compete with ya!’ I think most people fear truly being alone, by only being able to do things by themselves, that they throw themselves into competitive activities, to take some of that ‘sting’ away. What you don’t know, doesn’t have to sting you, though. Isn’t ignorance bliss?

What they only need to do is gather up all the balls they can muster and give themselves that push. They may crash off that cliff but if they, in their descent, believe in themselves, nature will be but all too happy to see yet another rising star. I’m flapping my wings already. In the race against myself, I’m doing good: I think I’m ahead! What about you, how far are you? If you is still kicking your ass, it may be time to give that push to yourself. Don’t worry about that unknown, the people there know it’s humanly possible. So jump! Fly! SOAR!


“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places in Christ.”

– Ephesians 1:3 (abridged)

Disclaimer: This article is for motivational purposes. I do not accept any liabilities that may arise on your part, for acting on it. And I include this disclaimer because a blogger who doesn’t take legalities seriously, is only a conviction waiting to happen.


May 18, 2012

I don’t take ‘No’ for an answer, every time I’m given one, I try to overturn it. I don’t let rules restrict me, if they stand in my way. Am I preaching illegality? No, but I’m definitely preaching a ‘whatever it takes’ attitude. You live only once, so why not do what has to be done, that you really wanna do? Lemme tell you something, this world is not impossible to overcome. As hard as it is, you can withstand it, if only you go about it in the right way. There are probably a few of them. I’m talking about mine.

Mine: I’m DRIVEN! Like the devil is chasing me? Is the devil chasing me? Yes, because he doesn’t want me to succeed. This is no conspiracy ish, this is a pledge. And you’re not pledging to me or nobody, you’re pledging to GOD! No one makes it out of this world alive so don’t take your mistakes seriously. We live in a time, in which it’s cool to be bad but it’s wack to talk about GOD. Well, here’s me gonna make talking about GOD cool! Every time, I had an extra painful moment, I suffered a lot. Today, I’m so hardened by all those experiences that I can’t imagine growing up successfully without them. I’m almost 30 – ’til date I’ve had about 5 Near Death Experiences. The only thing I can say about N.D.E.s is that they make you so much more grateful and make you appreciate life, for whatever it is. You don’t know how much you cherish your life until you risk losing it.

While I’m alive, I want to make all the dreams in my head happen. I will rather DIE TRYING than die without EVER having given it a REAL shot. A loser procrastinates. A loser always makes excuses for everything messed up in their lives and is never to blame. A loser finds every single excuse under the sun, in any idea suggested to him/her. A loser has no self-belief – just doubts. A loser can be gifted, but will never allow it to flourish because the loser cannot face DEFEAT! A LOSER CIRCUMVENTS FAILURE BY NOT EVEN ATTEMPTING IN THE FIRST PLACE! THAT’S WHY A LOSER IS A FAILURE!

I’m not a loser. I have failed countless times, that I don’t keep count. But I don’t give up. A few times in the past, I have given up – only to turn back again and give it another shot! It doesn’t matter what became of it, what matters is that I turned around and gave it another shot! I have done what I could over the past few years. It is what got me here. I am doing what I can, because I believe in the future. I believe in MY future and by me trying my best as best as I can (and trust me, I don’t joke), I will realize my dreams that exist in my head. They may not be exactly what I planned, I dunno what the future will look like but I have every faith in myself that whatever the world “throws” at me, I will overcome and make it to my dreams. BECAUSE I HAVE SELF-BELIEF AND BECAUSE I’M NOT A LOSER! Nothing that goes on in “the world” can be controlled. Everything that goes on inside you, can be, by YOU!

To be human, is to be gifted. There are two types of people in this world: Those who have discovered their gifts and those who haven’t. Not having discovered your gift, doesn’t make you a loser. I only discovered my gifts three years ago. And ever since I was a child, I always knew what my strengths were, the things I loved  to do but never took seriously. I’m not a loser because after 27 years, I turned around and GAVE IT ANOTHER SHOT! And now, I’m here. And that’s all that matters. The only people we ever compete with are ourselves. THINK ABOUT THAT!

Why am I writing all this? I dunno, I’m competing with myself to improve myself – even though I’m already good, because I’m gifted. And my gifts are my personal blessings from GOD. He already planned me out, you see? If you follow the same path, the only thing you need to do, is to unleash your blessings, to avoid being a loser. You’re already a winner, but first you must become.

“You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.”

Brian Tracy

‘Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour.’

1 Peter 5:8


Disclaimer: This article is for motivational purposes. I do not accept any liabilities that may arise on your part, for acting on it. And I include this disclaimer because a blogger who doesn’t take legalities seriously, is only a conviction waiting to happen.