Here is a great article from the World Economic Forum that talks about women being the catalyst in the eradication of poverty, mainly in Sub-Saharan Africa. It addresses the incredible progress they make, despite living in repressive & hostile environments. Have a read, it’s really awesome.

How Empowering Women Can Help End Poverty In Africa

Prostitution is one of the oldest professions in the world. It dates back a very long time, at least since the Roman Empire. Women have figured out that men really love their anatomy and will pretty much do anything to enjoy it. It’s no secret that women therefore often have a certain power of control over men. They just do. It’s common to see relationships where the females ‘wear the trousers’, simply because the men are so into them. The person who loves least in a relationship, controls it. Remember that!

Back to prostitution. Getting jobs for women isn’t easy. Gender inequality has been around since humans began to work for a living. Traditionally, most cultures feel that a woman’s domain is the home she lives in. So daily domestic chores like cleaning up, washing clothes/dishes & looking after children is women business. Gender inequality begins from raising children, where boys are educated and taught a trade, whiles girls stay with their mothers & learn to be homemakers. Poverty exists in every society though and the income of men, who are by and large the ‘head of the house, frequently isn’t enough to sustain families. It’s been a normal occurrence for centuries and still is. So females of sexual maturity are sent out to make money the easiest way they can: through prostitution. There also exists child labour, where children work alongside their parents or on their own, in order for more money to come to the family as a whole. Such practice has been and still is common in developing countries.

Prostitution, however, is a global phenomenon. It’s patronized by men who don’t have sex regularly, commonly due to busy work schedules that have to be, in order to make ends meet. It’s not a working class thing alone though, rich people do it too. The affluent call it differently: call girls & escorts. Women in this category charge several hundreds of Pounds Sterling at least, per night. Sex is a commodity and controlled to a large extent by organized crime. Powerful criminals, who are among the wealthy and respected in society, run chains of brothels, motels, hotels, casinos & other commercial organizations that permit paid sex as a ‘value added service’ to their operations. Nonetheless it’s not official, they just look the other way when it happens. The proceeds are high, and the further up the chain of command it goes, the bigger the share is.

Prostitutes are known to be poor, belonging to the working poor of society. Yes, call girls who ‘service’ rich and powerful men earn more, but they’re not the majority. Like taking on many other professions, prostitution is a choice, but when women don’t have enough to eat and feed their families and can’t get jobs because employment is largely reserved for men, a significant number of women, as a last resort, turn to prostitution. There are also drug addicts among prostitutes, who additionally also have an expensive habit to finance: the addiction to hard drugs like Crack, Cocaine, Heroin, Crystal Methamphetamine and other variations. These women spend the little they get on ‘scoring’, which is the process of shooting up drugs through your veins.

Too little is done worldwide to assist prostitutes. They’re looked down upon & insulted for living the harsh lives that they do. What people often fail to realize is that prostitution is closely related to poverty & working poverty. It’s not unusual to find prostitutes who come from broken homes. They never had the blessing of being raised right by loving parents, in a home that secured them and nurtured their ambitions. Instead, they experienced cruel things like being raised by single, abusive, and /or drug-addicted parents. They grew up in crime-riddled neighborhoods, where decent jobs are largely non-existent & the agonizing pain of poverty, which inflicts hunger, starvation, deprivation & indignation, bites hard every day. In those situations, they did the best they could & it often meant crime, because crime is the pervasive form of employment there. Men sell drugs or go into robbery and women resort to prostitution. It’s a reality you don’t wish onto anybody!

I’ve slept with prostitutes before. I didn’t get laid & craved for sex. Being far from perfection, I’m no saint. I patronized prostitution because it was affordable & readily available. I played safely but the risk of getting sexually transmitted diseases and/or HIV/AIDS is ever present therein, regardless of the precautions you take. Many prostitutes keep condoms with them, but getting sex diseases from them is very easy. Drug addicted prostitutes also contend with the risk of getting HIV/AIDS by sharing syringes, needles, knives & other sharp tools they use to take drugs. So prostitution is somewhat a bedrock of sexually transmitted diseases and/or HIV/AIDS.

In my experience with prostitutes, I’ve learned that they’re just people like you and me. They have hopes and fears & and are affected by what goes on in society, like everybody else. They’re down to Earth & normal people… living a f*cked up life. Where there’s life, there’s hope and it could be worse, they could be dead but they fight on every day, like valiant soldiers who refuse to be defeated. Women who work in prostitution shouldn’t be called derogatory names like ho, hooker or bitch. They’re sisters, daughters, mothers, aunties & humans. They deserve respect, regardless of what they do. If you don’t live the life of another person and don’t go through its experiences, how can you have a right to judge that person? You don’t! When you point a finger at someone, you have three fingers pointing back at you. Respect people for who they are: human. And they have just as much right as you to live and be!

I care for prostitutes. I choose to. Here in Lagos, you see ladies as young 16 going into the trade. It’s heart-breaking. Sometimes when I look at them and they look back, I see the pain in their eyes. They look at me, asking why they must live this hardship, with their look. To succeed in this world, you by and large have to come from a sheltered upbringing, a home. Yes, there are people who made it from rags to riches but they’re few and far apart. The reality is that the vast majority of people who don’t come from homes and/or were born in and live in poor, crime-riddled neighborhoods, don’t make it successful in life. They succumb to a life of crime, vices and prostitution. So you who is reading this, though we’re different from each other, we in actual fact belong to the privileged of the world. We’re educated, skilled, were born and raised in homes by parents/guardians who more commonly than not cared about us and ’til this day, we STILL live in homes! We are the fortunate in the world because the vast majority of people in the world are poor and exposed to crime. We can therefore not imagine what that reality is like. We therefore also don’t have the right to criticize them because we simply would not know what we’re talking about, simply because we never went through it and are STILL not going through it. Success in this world is living in a home, eating regularly & having a legitimate source of income. Most people just don’t do that!

If governments around the world can afford to spend billions of Pound Sterling for ‘recreational/leisure activities’, like the World Cup, the Olympics & national/continental & international tournaments in other sports, at least every year, then they can also easily develop and fund programs for the rehabilitation of prostitutes! Even powerful politicians like Italy’s Berlusconi patronize prostitution with their Bunga Bunga sex parties! So everyone takes advantage of it but nobody wants to fix it. Typical!

If you help prostitutes, you help families because women who are empowered, empower their own families. Empowered families create prosperous communities, where crime is low and socio-economic development high. Help prostitutes! Care for them! They’re people just like you and me and are not any less. They never were and will never be!

This article is dedicated to all prostitutes, call girls, escorts and sex workers around the world, who commonly have to live through far more hardship in society than any other demographic. Despite their miseries, my heart goes out to them!

Recommended further reading:

The Economist: Prostitution

Prostitution Research & Education

Wikipedia: Prostitution

Wikipedia: Prostitution By Country

Wikipedia: Prostitution Of Children

The Guardian: Campaigners Protest Against UN Stance on Prostitution

Equality Now: UN, Listen To Survivors – Don’t Jeopardize Efforts To Prevent Sex-Trafficking

Women Of Grace: War On Women Continues; UN Wants To Legalize Prostitution

Cheryl M. Toth: The Definition & Facts Of Prostitution

The Covering House

Laws.com: The Prostitution Staistics You Have To Know

Modern Slavery & Human Trafficking: FAQs

Veronica’s Voice: Statistics

Get Up

September 4, 2012

This is for the failures. The losers, the defeated and non-winners. If you’ve ever fallen in your life, this one’s for you.

GET UP! So, you messed up a project. Failed an exam and have to repeat a class. I did that twice! But I don’t bother counting how many times I’ve had to re-take exams. This isn’t about me. This isn’t that much about you either. But if you’ve struggled with an achievement, here’s why you need to read on.

Life is cyclical. Anyone can tell, everyone has different ways of explaining it. Everybody fails. The ones who succeed aren’t the ones who stop failing. That’s nonsense. Everyone who succeeds, carries on fighting problems. Whether new, old or a mixture of both. The only way you’ll never have problems again, is if you’re six foot below. We can’t tell what’s in the after-life, too, so I guess we’re pretty much screwed. We aren’t, though. That’s the point! It’s how you look at it, that matters. More than often, a little change in perception, yields big changes in outcome. One loss today, several wins tomorrow – but would you really have won then, if you thought you were a loser?

Losses. Failures. Defeats. Downfalls. These words are labels, only important for one thing: to make you Acknowledge your current predicament without denial. They make you view yourself objectively. If you’re a loser, they make you say, ‘OK. You know what? I’m a loser. I suck at this.’ Therefore, you don’t from it. It doesn’t matter what you may have lost in, is. It could be a task, a situation, whatever, but what you need to do thereafter is ask yourself honestly, ‘Now, how do I get out of this? How can this work?’

That’s it! That’s ALL those words are good for, nothing else! Abraham Lincoln once said, ‘My great concern is not whether you have failed – but whether you are content with your failure.’ There’s another quote of equal profoundness from Steve Davis that goes, ‘It may not be your fault for being down, but it is your fault for not getting back up.’

Is your life changing? ‘Cause they shook mine. Maybe you heard of him, maybe you don’t – if you’re in business, it makes sense to read his books. Management guru Peter F. Drucker’s quote is thus, ‘What you have to do and the way you have to do it is incredibly simple. Whether you’re willing to do it, that’s another matter.’ Applicable to all, not just business. It applies to you because your life is your business! So what’s it gonna be, huh? You gonna be a failure? Think because you lost at something, you’re a total loser? Or, my personal favorite, can’t do something, ‘because it’s never been done before!’. Sure you can. For one, you can stop comparing yourself to the rest who wallow in their pity, limit the dramatic labels to a situation and not your entire life and begin from a point of pro-action! Do It!

Life is hard. We don’t know what to compare it to, but we know it. We can just tell. That, nonetheless, is life and simply in knowing such, life thereby becomes bearable. And when something becomes bearable, you can overcome the difficulties with grace and shine through. So, you stick it out. And when you persevere, you reduce things to a numbers game. When it comes down to and you slug it through a numbers game, you WIN!

50 Cent – Get Up

‘A problem is something I can do something about.’

Fred Smith

‘You can’t stretch your limits without encountering serious obstacles along the way.’

Dr Jerry Lynch (PhD)

‘Failure and losses are acceptable learning experiences that can help improve your performance.’

Zig Ziglar

‘To the present hour we both hunger and thirst, and we are poorly clothed, and beaten, and homeless. And we labor, working with our own hands. Being reviled, we bless; being persecuted, we endure’

I Corinthians 4:11-12 (abridged)



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Fly

May 31, 2012

Only you can do it for yourself. No one can flap your wings for you. You have to jump off the cliff on your own. That doesn’t mean you won’t see other birds in the sky. Everyone who or everything that deems flight, reaches for the Heavens. To keep you company, to be on their way. It requires guts and a whole lot of faith. You put more belief in yourself than a shrink. And you constantly confront your fear.

Flight. It’s something so few of us do, although we’re all capable of it. Many believe it to be fantasy, others give up on it, too damn easy. If anything in your life is worth having, then you’ll have to put up a fight for it. And if you lose, you’ll have to fight until you win. It’s that easy. Funny how dumb we sometimes choose to be. Entitlement doesn’t exist. It’s a tough world out there, and if you want it – go get it! It is possible to learn flight from the get-go and just build up the pieces as you make a living for yourself. There are times though, when you’re falling through great depths – and the only thing you can do to stop it, is to learn how to fly. I belong to the latter group, despite having identified with the former for a long time. In order to save myself and prevent disaster, I resorted to flight: Barely able to run, I spread my wings and reached for the sky. I flew to make it. Now I fly to be free.

Your biggest potential, your greatest skill, I do not know about. Your best achievement, your largest victory, I’m not aware of. You can be your key ally or your worst enemy. No one can live your life for you. Since you’re reading this, know that you’re incredibly privileged, because you’re part of a minuscule, global minority who can afford the luxuries you take for granted! I used to complain of having bad shoes – until I acknowledged the destitute with no legs and then I shut the fuck up!

It doesn’t depend on the world for you to spread your wings. Humans are angels, on a test to see how well they can co-op without wings. Believe and you will achieve. People are not a confirmation of your strength: It doesn’t matter if what you’re about to do, has never been done before. After my second year at university, I failed a first year examination for the overall third time. I was broker than joke and struggled bad to keep up. That summer, I got kicked out. When I met the student adviser about getting back in, he told me I had a better chance winning the lottery (Yes, he actually said that.). I refused to concede defeat, opened up to the campus counselor and wrote my appeal to the board of the business school. A few weeks later, I got re-instated. I never informed the adviser because I didn’t need to: That was the single most powerful where I realized my capability to greatness and vowed to become self-dependent from then on. Fast forward six years and I’m running my firm, won a World Summit Youth Award Runner-up for developing a superior e-project, called ‘Mother Nature‘, that was chosen among 30 winning e-projects out of 630 international youth new media creations; scored a total 90% grade in a highly competitive Internet Governance capacity building e-programme for high-performing technocrats & government officials, under the Internet Society’s Next Generation Leaders course and am releasing a brilliant product of my competence of brilliant creative writing & illustration, this year. My hunch was right because it came from my spirit, and whatever your spirit tells you (if you choose to acknowledge it) is right.

Am I done? Nah, not as long as I live. Versatility complements success: You re-define your game when needed and stay fresh. We’re conditioned in this world to compete others. Unless you’re using competition to improve some part of yourself, it’s the dumbest thing you can do! Only you can breathe for yourself, how can anyone do it for/with you? Where is the sense then to engage in an activity, that only you can ensure your participation of – by yourself, against other people, so as to see who will ‘come out on top’? Doesn’t that sound stupid? ‘Yeah, I can only dead-lift 100kg, by myself, but I’ll compete with ya!’ I think most people fear truly being alone, by only being able to do things by themselves, that they throw themselves into competitive activities, to take some of that ‘sting’ away. What you don’t know, doesn’t have to sting you, though. Isn’t ignorance bliss?

What they only need to do is gather up all the balls they can muster and give themselves that push. They may crash off that cliff but if they, in their descent, believe in themselves, nature will be but all too happy to see yet another rising star. I’m flapping my wings already. In the race against myself, I’m doing good: I think I’m ahead! What about you, how far are you? If you is still kicking your ass, it may be time to give that push to yourself. Don’t worry about that unknown, the people there know it’s humanly possible. So jump! Fly! SOAR!

 

“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places in Christ.”

– Ephesians 1:3 (abridged)

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Become

May 18, 2012

I don’t take ‘No’ for an answer, every time I’m given one, I try to overturn it. I don’t let rules restrict me, if they stand in my way. Am I preaching illegality? No, but I’m definitely preaching a ‘whatever it takes’ attitude. You live only once, so why not do what has to be done, that you really wanna do? Lemme tell you something, this world is not impossible to overcome. As hard as it is, you can withstand it, if only you go about it in the right way. There are probably a few of them. I’m talking about mine.

Mine: I’m DRIVEN! Like the devil is chasing me? Is the devil chasing me? Yes, because he doesn’t want me to succeed. This is no conspiracy ish, this is a pledge. And you’re not pledging to me or nobody, you’re pledging to GOD! No one makes it out of this world alive so don’t take your mistakes seriously. We live in a time, in which it’s cool to be bad but it’s wack to talk about GOD. Well, here’s me gonna make talking about GOD cool! Every time, I had an extra painful moment, I suffered a lot. Today, I’m so hardened by all those experiences that I can’t imagine growing up successfully without them. I’m almost 30 – ’til date I’ve had about 5 Near Death Experiences. The only thing I can say about N.D.E.s is that they make you so much more grateful and make you appreciate life, for whatever it is. You don’t know how much you cherish your life until you risk losing it.

While I’m alive, I want to make all the dreams in my head happen. I will rather DIE TRYING than die without EVER having given it a REAL shot. A loser procrastinates. A loser always makes excuses for everything messed up in their lives and is never to blame. A loser finds every single excuse under the sun, in any idea suggested to him/her. A loser has no self-belief – just doubts. A loser can be gifted, but will never allow it to flourish because the loser cannot face DEFEAT! A LOSER CIRCUMVENTS FAILURE BY NOT EVEN ATTEMPTING IN THE FIRST PLACE! THAT’S WHY A LOSER IS A FAILURE!

I’m not a loser. I have failed countless times, that I don’t keep count. But I don’t give up. A few times in the past, I have given up – only to turn back again and give it another shot! It doesn’t matter what became of it, what matters is that I turned around and gave it another shot! I have done what I could over the past few years. It is what got me here. I am doing what I can, because I believe in the future. I believe in MY future and by me trying my best as best as I can (and trust me, I don’t joke), I will realize my dreams that exist in my head. They may not be exactly what I planned, I dunno what the future will look like but I have every faith in myself that whatever the world “throws” at me, I will overcome and make it to my dreams. BECAUSE I HAVE SELF-BELIEF AND BECAUSE I’M NOT A LOSER! Nothing that goes on in “the world” can be controlled. Everything that goes on inside you, can be, by YOU!

To be human, is to be gifted. There are two types of people in this world: Those who have discovered their gifts and those who haven’t. Not having discovered your gift, doesn’t make you a loser. I only discovered my gifts three years ago. And ever since I was a child, I always knew what my strengths were, the things I loved  to do but never took seriously. I’m not a loser because after 27 years, I turned around and GAVE IT ANOTHER SHOT! And now, I’m here. And that’s all that matters. The only people we ever compete with are ourselves. THINK ABOUT THAT!

Why am I writing all this? I dunno, I’m competing with myself to improve myself – even though I’m already good, because I’m gifted. And my gifts are my personal blessings from GOD. He already planned me out, you see? If you follow the same path, the only thing you need to do, is to unleash your blessings, to avoid being a loser. You’re already a winner, but first you must become.

“You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.”

Brian Tracy

‘Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour.’

1 Peter 5:8

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Disclaimer: This article is for motivational purposes. I do not accept any liabilities that may arise on your part, for acting on it. And I include this disclaimer because a blogger who doesn’t take legalities seriously, is only a conviction waiting to happen.