Get Up

September 4, 2012

This is for the failures. The losers, the defeated and non-winners. If you’ve ever fallen in your life, this one’s for you.

GET UP! So, you messed up a project. Failed an exam and have to repeat a class. I did that twice! But I don’t bother counting how many times I’ve had to re-take exams. This isn’t about me. This isn’t that much about you either. But if you’ve struggled with an achievement, here’s why you need to read on.

Life is cyclical. Anyone can tell, everyone has different ways of explaining it. Everybody fails. The ones who succeed aren’t the ones who stop failing. That’s nonsense. Everyone who succeeds, carries on fighting problems. Whether new, old or a mixture of both. The only way you’ll never have problems again, is if you’re six foot below. We can’t tell what’s in the after-life, too, so I guess we’re pretty much screwed. We aren’t, though. That’s the point! It’s how you look at it, that matters. More than often, a little change in perception, yields big changes in outcome. One loss today, several wins tomorrow – but would you really have won then, if you thought you were a loser?

Losses. Failures. Defeats. Downfalls. These words are labels, only important for one thing: to make you Acknowledge your current predicament without denial. They make you view yourself objectively. If you’re a loser, they make you say, ‘OK. You know what? I’m a loser. I suck at this.’ Therefore, you don’t from it. It doesn’t matter what you may have lost in, is. It could be a task, a situation, whatever, but what you need to do thereafter is ask yourself honestly, ‘Now, how do I get out of this? How can this work?’

That’s it! That’s ALL those words are good for, nothing else! Abraham Lincoln once said, ‘My great concern is not whether you have failed – but whether you are content with your failure.’ There’s another quote of equal profoundness from Steve Davis that goes, ‘It may not be your fault for being down, but it is your fault for not getting back up.’

Is your life changing? ‘Cause they shook mine. Maybe you heard of him, maybe you don’t – if you’re in business, it makes sense to read his books. Management guru Peter F. Drucker’s quote is thus, ‘What you have to do and the way you have to do it is incredibly simple. Whether you’re willing to do it, that’s another matter.’ Applicable to all, not just business. It applies to you because your life is your business! So what’s it gonna be, huh? You gonna be a failure? Think because you lost at something, you’re a total loser? Or, my personal favorite, can’t do something, ‘because it’s never been done before!’. Sure you can. For one, you can stop comparing yourself to the rest who wallow in their pity, limit the dramatic labels to a situation and not your entire life and begin from a point of pro-action! Do It!

Life is hard. We don’t know what to compare it to, but we know it. We can just tell. That, nonetheless, is life and simply in knowing such, life thereby becomes bearable. And when something becomes bearable, you can overcome the difficulties with grace and shine through. So, you stick it out. And when you persevere, you reduce things to a numbers game. When it comes down to and you slug it through a numbers game, you WIN!

50 Cent – Get Up

‘A problem is something I can do something about.’

Fred Smith

‘You can’t stretch your limits without encountering serious obstacles along the way.’

Dr Jerry Lynch (PhD)

‘Failure and losses are acceptable learning experiences that can help improve your performance.’

Zig Ziglar

‘To the present hour we both hunger and thirst, and we are poorly clothed, and beaten, and homeless. And we labor, working with our own hands. Being reviled, we bless; being persecuted, we endure’

I Corinthians 4:11-12 (abridged)

Disclaimer: This article is for motivational purposes. I do not accept any liabilities that may arise on your part, for acting on it. And I include this disclaimer because a blogger who doesn’t take legalities seriously, is only a conviction waiting to happen.


May 30, 2012

Simplicity. It exists in all of us. It abounds everywhere. Some see it, others cherish it, most ignore it. Smile. It uses less energy than a frown, and yet the majority of people choose to be sad than to be gleeful. Giving. Makes you feel recognized, you get appreciation and that is the most important need to your being. Love. Happens everywhere, everyone is capable of giving it, but it’s the commodity least given out by the masses of the world. Unfortunately, too many are taught to hate than to love. This world is in the mess it’s in, because that choice is happily made.

If you hate, you’re angry. Aggression is carcinogenic and/or can cause heart disease. With that in mind, you might wanna think about holding that grudge against someone. Emotions are like a continuum: On one end you’ve got happiness, on the other you’ve got sadness. This continuum is not horizontal but vertical. Happiness is at the top, while sadness lurks at the bottom. The better you feel, the higher your mood goes up the emotional continuum. That’s where the feeling of being at the top of the world is derived. When you’re feeling sad, you spirit descends down the spectrum, and cannot relate to anyone unless that person is or those people, are at equal depths. These abyss-like pits spawned expressions like feeling down/low, when describing sadness. After all, ‘Misery needs company’. Wallowing in pity doesn’t do you any favors, it just does your body harm. It’s virtually impossible to solve a problem by worrying.

I am a naturally happy person. This world darkened me. I allowed this world to darken me. Now I break ties with neg heads and chase my dreams. I recommend you do the same, if you want happiness, too. Leaving people you’ve known all your life or for many years, can be one of the most difficult things you ever have to do. You initially contend with fear of loss: That they are all better than you and that you need them because they’re so valuable. Regardless of what the listed benefits of you leaving might be for your happiness, you don’t stop repeating mentally what good things they may offer you, even though you (may) have gone your independent ways, aren’t in touch like when your friendship started and have become such different people that it really doesn’t make sense to remain connected. When you feel like you’re the person who’s got the most to offer in your circle of ‘friends’, it may be a good idea to look for new ones.

Failure makes you succeed. In Basketball for example, you can only become better by getting your ass kicked, repetitively. Playing against Michael Jordan makes you work up your d. I imagine the same thing in Football, when playing against David Beckham: Not the best day for your defence! Now, I understand this may make me come across as psychopathic and/or narcissistic. Most of my life, I’ve been secondary or an alternative to so-called ‘friends’. I was always in somebody else’s shadow and it didn’t stop until my mid-twenties. At 26, I said STOP – and never looked back. Most people want to use you unscrupulously or subdue you undignifying below them. I’m a peacock and realized my brilliant colors, at last. I broke out my prison because I’m that bird too beautiful to be caged in!

Sometimes in life, you have to break down to be built up. If you understand that, you’ll have no problems confronting failure ever again. Because failure is only temporary. What you do with it, that becomes permanent.

Happiness is the yearning to enjoy yourself, in whatever way you imagine. There’s nothing like living your life as your own person. Nothing. It is the most exhilarating feeling you can ever have as a human – because you’re FREE!

The happier you are, the more happiness you attract. The higher your spirit is lifted. A smile is contagious, laughter is epidemic and a good mood can improve a society.

At this point, I’m not gonna tell you what to do! What should I? Even God doesn’t: You’ve got free will. Being happy, you confidently tell the whole world that you know your value and won’t let it be diminished, by relating to pessimists. Like many hater however, you can also give the impression of your blissful happiness, by laughing forcibly while bringing this person or that thing down. And who would stop you? Go ahead! If your prerogative is to spend your finite time hating, best of luck to you! Or you could cut your losses, abandon negative people and abhor (their) evil forever. In doing so, you would commit to the continuous attempting of nurturing & growing YOUR happiness, regardless of situation, for the rest of your life. I’m on that path now, and what I can say, from my perspective, is that it’s worth it.

Happiness is life-enhancing because to attain it in the first place, you have to tell yourself that you’re worth it, which increases or validates your value. That’s why happy people always have so much to offer; they consolidate themselves in so many ways. True happiness comes from giving, it is found in helping people. That’s why I have no problems working as hard as I do for both my websites – yes, I’m providing value to people, but the gains I make from it, I couldn’t describe! Happiness doesn’t cut short another, in inferiority: A truly happy person appreciates value in others and does not perceive arrogance in humble celebrations of success. A hater reduces his/her quality of life by trying to undermine successful people due to his/her inferiority and/or insecurity. Haters don’t last. Lovers do! It’s only a matter of time for the hater to convert into a lover or be cancelled out by life.

A simple tip to become happy, is to do something. Motion creates emotion. The emotion you essentially feel when you’re active, is gratitude to be engaged. Why do you think so athletes and sports-enthusiasts do sports for decades, at least? If you’ve monetized your hobby, go find another one. Your world is only as small & finite as you imagine it. Think I’m crazy? OK, when Thomas Edison was attempting for hundreds of times, people thought he was crazy. Now, many take the existence of light bulbs for granted. Tell me who’s crazy! Boredom doesn’t exist. A person who is bored, doesn’t want to think of anything to do and/or undertake it. There’s no such thing as boredom in nature, write that word out of your mind now. (Yes, I AM telling you what to do!) Life is living. Living is progressive. To be happy – do.

HAPPINESS. Go create it. Successful business professionals often feel the more actively they work, the luckier they get. You create luck, you don’t just get it. Opportunity makes itself obvious to people who work on their dreams, and re-visits them regularly because these people are able to recognize her. Opportunity doesn’t give preferential treatment but knocks only once. If you’re too cool for school and demand a second knock because of your ego, by the time you open your door, opportunity may not even be on your street anymore.

Living gratefully is a good way to happiness. When you realize just how many blessings you’ve got, Nature starts throwing more at you because you’ve figured out the meaning of wealth. Material things can make you smile, blessings make you happy. If you don’t believe it, try it for yourself: Giving to others, unlocks the vital blessing to true happiness. So, you’re gonna have to become grateful, either way… and don’t stop giving.

I once typed give in a major search engine. I got over 3 billion search results. Then I typed take and got an additional billion more, about. Maybe that’s why true happiness is an endeavor for one’s self: The world will not find it!

Happiness is a decision: When you realize that you’ve made it through all your tumultuous eras and are still just as valid today, you can leave them in the past and consciously live in the NOW. Be happy & stay that way!

“He who gives to the poor will not lack, but he who hides his eyes will have many curses.”

– Proverbs 28:27

Disclaimer: This article is for motivational purposes. I do not accept any liabilities that may arise on your part, for acting on it. And I include this disclaimer because a blogger who doesn’t take legalities seriously, is only a conviction waiting to happen.