Stalking

Watched a movie called Cat Person last night. It’s OK, nothing special but does talk about the horrors of (online) dating. There’s a part towards the end that hit me where I realized how bad it is. The former love interest of the female student stalks her at her workplace and she’s freaked out. It made me think about the issue and how I’ve up til now never covered it. Something else for a change but this is (as always) grim.

I did some research and found out 1 in 3 women get stalked. Maybe my next article will be about drink spiking and how (young) women get raped. It’s got a high percentage, too.

For real though, 1 in 3! How screwed up is that? If it was like 10%, even though the girls in the 10% would be unlucky, it would still be ‘bearable’ but a whopping 30%???

It’s crazy, man. The movie starts with a quote I found funny. It goes, “Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them.” – Margaret Atwood I thought it was hilarious because it’s so true but as you watch the film it becomes less funny and you actually see how dark it can be… for women.

Basically, all I’ve ever been saying on this blog is true and not just my personal opinion: violence against women is horrifying because they by and large can’t defend themselves against typically stronger men. Women just don’t have the muscles that men have. Not that I want them to, but you get the point.

It kinda makes me glad my intuition is right but I still maintain that the only way to solve this problem is for females to learn how to fight. Basic self-defense (at the very least) or a martial art should be mandatorily taught to girls in school and maintained at uni and vocational schools. Because the only language men understand is violence. And men categorically don’t attack who they know can beat them up.

Anyway, to the data. 24% of female victims of stalking were stalked as minors.

Imagine sending your kid to school and she walks home afterward, and she notices a grown man staring at her and following her.

Put yourself in her shoes. She’s like 9 or 10 and a full-grown pedo man is stalking her, trying to get with her. How horrified she must be. How scared she must be in her little heart. Frightened, panicking, beginning to run because she’s imagining the worst. By the time she comes home crying, reporting to her mom or dad what happened, the stalker is gone!

This stuff actually happens in real life. There are children who go through this thing.

Then of course there’s cyber-stalking. Usually ex-boyfriends stalking their previous girlfriends’ social media, trying to keep up. Living in the past. It’s closely related because the most common in-person stalking of women is usually done by ex-boyfriends as well. People who can’t get over a breakup. And because social media platforms don’t tell you who checked out your profile, like back in the day Hi5 used to do (lol), you have no idea who checks you out. None whatsoever. Even if people read your blog, at best you can determine the city with Google Analytics but you can’t tell who tf read your blog.

Whoever invents that app will make billions! Holler at me for giving you the idea. XD

It reminds me of the last article I wrote on revenge porn and how it’s about this guy who the victim knows, who harasses her with deepfake porn online. I forgot my train of thought so I don’t know what I was going to say next to connect the two. Maybe later I’ll think of it.

Yeah! OK, I got it. So, it’s usually some ex, but sometimes also a deranged lunatic who creeps on a chick and obsesses over her, etc. In Another Body, the culprit made deepfakes. In Cat Person, though the stalker started out as a boyfriend (briefly), he quickly unraveled to be an unhinged psycho.

I’m not one to front, I can have an obsessive nature myself. If I really want something (or someone), I find it hard to take no, but I do respect boundaries and don’t cross the line. It’s minimum decency to respect rejections and non-interest of the opposite sex. If she’s not feeling you – move on!

It kinda links back to articles I’ve written in previous years about rape etc. They’re similarly related.

It’s not enough for a girl to carry pepper spray in her purse. I’m not even a big fan of Tasers (even though I don’t wanna get tased). Kicking a man in his balls is the very last resort of self-defense for a woman. Fundamentally, she needs to learn how to kick an assailant’s ass with martial arts (karate, jiu-jitsu, aikido, whatever). The pacifists will criticize me for ‘promoting violence’, but tell me how many victims have been saved by being ‘peaceful’ and ‘docile’ when men stalked, groped, and tried to rape chicks….?

Exactly.

Nuff said.

But in a perfect world, it’s solved.

I forget I’m an idealist (not really). The way I think is not of this world.

Back to politics and nothing done.

Peace.

Thought this was funny when I looked for stalker pics. Lightens up the mood a little bit. X)

Sex Crimes: Deepfakes and Revenge Porn

Just watched a movie called Another Body. It’s basically about a master’s degree college student who discovers deepfake porn videos of herself. In the process of uncovering the culprit, she finds 2 other women who had been victimized, one being her former classmate. What is deepfake? In layman’s terms, it’s Photoshop for videos. So the way you can completely alter images with Photoshop, you can completely manipulate and create new footage from existing videos by (for example) switching faces etc. So a loser could add a girl’s face to a porn video and make it look like the girl is actually having sex.

Which brings me to revenge porn. Usually, revenge porn is from guys who got pissed off at their ex for whatever petty reason that they publish their intimate moments on porn websites like Pornhub. As can be seen from the movie referenced above, though, a form of revenge porn can also be made just from mentally ill, socially-isolated losers who take their wrath of being ignored by their female interests, onto the Internet and ‘make them pay’ (ooh, so manly).

While the film was partly a difficult watch, it kind of bored me out a bit because I’ve covered so much porn already that I just lost interest – but I’ve been wanting to write about deepfake for some time. Mostly because I personally think it’s one hell of an invention that can wreak havoc in the wrong hands, as can be seen in the movie.

Is a gun bad or good? It’s neither, it’s simply a tool. In the hands of a deranged mass shooter, a gun is a living nightmare. When a soldier or police officer takes out such a shooter, thereby saving dozens of innocent bystanders, the gun is like sent from Heaven. Deepfake can have its amazing benefits. Like in the creative industry, for example. We could see historical biopics being made, like Hitler’s last moments in the bunker, etc. Remember when Forrest Gump met JFK? That was an early application of deepfake, though not as sophisticated as now.

Misusing deepfake technology, however, is an outright horror. Because it’s so convincing, it is almost impossible to tell if something is real or fake. And the implications are far-reaching. Criminals can blackmail people of interest in exchange for ransom etc. Jealous and scorned ex-lovers or side-chicks can make deepfakes of men just to ruin their marriages, etc. Innocent people’s lives can be destroyed just because some low-life out there thinks it’s justified to do so. Like, ‘She was a bitch! How dare she not greet me!’ Sound familiar? Yeah, losers with power are a dangerous mix.

Another nefarious use of deepfake is in quelling dissent. Nowadays, in the age of growing censorship of alternative, non-popular views on mainstream platforms, governments can create deepfakes of activists and targeted leaders to incriminate them in crimes and compromises they didn’t engage in. And the videos would be so real, so plausible, your average Joe would believe it if he saw it on the news. That’s how dangerous deepfake is. Its abuse is a true threat to a country’s democracy – not synchronized propaganda spewed out at the same time.

Like with AI potentially taking jobs, I only support the widespread use of deepfake if it is not only regulated by governments (in the interest of the people, ie government agencies not also misusing it for illegal censoring and blackmailing activities), but also only used in non-destructive, productive ways like movie-making etc (goes without saying).

I’m going to stop here, I’m kind of fed up with all these sex crimes and porn issues. Below are more links you can research on your own. Enjoy (meant sarcastically).

4Chan – In the movie Another Body, they referenced 4Chan and it’s an anonymous image-sharing site where people across the web can request illegal deepfakes of other people based off images they share of them. So if I were a loser I could deepfake a video from an ex, based on a bunch of pictures I have of her. The technology does the rest. Scary world we live in. Especially for women.

Mr Deepfakes – While there are numerous deepfake porn sites mentioned in the movie, I only checked out one, and frankly it was disturbing. Here you have a porn site that features ultra-realistic porn videos of celebrities (like I said, deepfake). I don’t have the stomach to go through it so happy puking.

Sex Crimes – Google search.

Revenge Porn – Google search.

And to end with the cherry on top, last night when I checked out 4Chan for the first time, I went to 2 sections: ‘Sexy Beautiful Women’ and ‘Adult Requests’. They’re both in the Adult section on the right. I was just going through the pics, I remember one category had loads of dick pics with female pics right next to them (sort of like to explain how the deepfake should be, presumably to depict a blowjob). One category, though, I can’t remember which one, had 2 pics of a black-haired teenage girl (16, 17 at the most). In the first, she was lying belly down, taking a selfie of herself topless in bed. The next picture was of her topless showing her breasts, looking into the camera. And you can clearly see she’s a minor. Now because this site is anonymous and people only use pseudonyms, you can see that even sites like 4Chan can be used in the publication and distribution of child pornography. I tried looking for that same page a while ago, couldn’t find it. There’s too much new content added since then and I’m not about to go through all that smut.

See for yourself and be the judge. Gone are the days of crime only being perceived as some dark alley stuff. Or online, only if you’re on the dark web. Crime is widespread throughout the Internet and society and publically accessible through Google. It’s hiding in plain sight and is often right in front of your face. Like they say, the best place to hide a body is on the second page of Google.

Nuff said.

Anyway, I’m out. Watch Another Body, it’s a good movie and teaches you a lot about the deepfake and sex crime industry – and how the perpetrator can really be someone you know!

Honor Killings

I came across an article a few months ago about a British teenage girl who got killed by her own parents, and it stirred me up. The particular incident is old news, it happened in 2012, but it was new to me and I was like wtf?

I’m trying to think of how a girl could bring shame to me. How if I had a daughter, she could bring shame to my name and family. I can’t think of any ways. If she came out as gay, I would still love her. If she dropped out of school, I would still support her. If she got pregnant during puberty, I would still love her and support her (but be fairly pissed off). If she dated someone ‘outside her race’, that would be cool with me. As long he doesn’t hurt her or break her heart, we wouldn’t have any problems. If my daughter went into porn – OK, I’d be pissed, and we would definitely fight A LOT – but I would still love and probably support her. The point is, there’s nothing she could do that would make me want to disown her and subsequently kill her. She could go as far as killing someone, whether in rage or self-defense. I would still support and be by her side, no matter what (cuz Lord knows I have my episodes as well).

The world is not as liberal as me, though. Many, if not all of these reasons are enough for primitive cultures across North Africa, the Middle East, and the Indian Subcontinent to engage in so-called ‘honor killings‘ which are mostly murders of females accused of dating outside their tribe, caste, religion, or things like that, and are then murdered since they have bought ‘shame’ to their families. The murder restores ‘honor’ to the homicidal family and is often justified by the communities they live in. In fact, since this is a backward culture, these kinds of communities often uphold the need to commit these heinous acts otherwise they stigmatize the ‘shamed’ family. So societal pressure also makes these families kill their daughters, sisters, wives, and female relatives.

Cold world we live in. I just thought of another, rather twisted reason of how if I had a daughter, she could make me want to kill her. It’s not rampant in the world, but some cousins do get attracted to each other and get sexually involved. Not just cousins really, incest cuts across the board: siblings, parents with kids, uncles with nieces etc. If I had a daughter, and she committed incest, would I kill her? No. I would be distraught, angry, I wouldn’t know what to do. I would be all over the place, but kill her?? No! She’s my freaking daughter! She may be a bit retarded and not very smart, but I would never kill her! Why tf would I do that? After bringing her into this world, nurturing her, and watching her grow, I should all of sudden take her life because she brought shame to my family? Yeah, I would definitely be ashamed, but kill my child, not even God could make me do it.

So why tf do we have honor killings? Why do patriarchal societies believe they have any right to kill female members of their families? When I read the article some time back, about the British girl called Shafilea Ahmed, I was (as I mostly am) screwed! Like, ‘Are you serious? They killed her? She’s DEAD???’ And this was over a decade ago, the case is done and dusted. It took me a while to realize it, I thought it was recent news ’cause it was in my homefeed. I was glad when I read the parents got arraigned and are now rotting in jail. But still it’s not enough! She’s still gone! And for what? Her parents killed her because she refused to go back to Pakistan for an arranged marriage. Not only was she underage at 17 at the time, but living in the West, you would think her elders would have left such Hinterland mindset in the village they came from. It’s the 21st century and we still very much grapple with arranged marriages and if the girl refuses, it can have deadly consequences.

Cold world. Honor killings are deeply rooted in tribalism and dated customs. Things that have always been done a certain way stay a certain way. No evolution, no progression. No getting with the times and realizing females (the majority victims of honor killings) are equal humans to the scums who kill them. These crimes are committed in a variety of ways. They can include strangulation, stabbing, acid attacks, and even public hanging to deter other people in the community from bringing ‘shame’ to their families. ‘This is what will happen.’

Christ sake.

Can you imagine having a daughter, or if you already have one, cool – and then putting your hands around her neck and strangling her until she dies before your eyes? Did you ever even love the child? I mean seriously! I can kill for love but I cannot kill someone I love. That stuff is beyond me, can’t do it! Like if I were Abraham in the Bible, I would tell God to buzz off! Like I don’t care if you burn me in hell, I ain’t sacrificing my child for nobody!! Not even you, God! Jesus said we must love him more than we love ourselves. Cool, I could do that but when I have a kid it’s over, J. You can’t tell me to put you above the welfare and life of my child. Screw – THAT!

Anyway, truth be told, while honor killings prevalently occur in the MENA region and the Indian subcontinent, tribalism is rife and is practiced throughout much of the world. I once almost dated a girl from another tribe and before things got serious, she was like we could never be ’cause her parents would never let her. And in Nigeria, inter-tribal relationships and marriages are growing but still largely frowned upon. In the movie Jungle Fever, from Spike Lee, it treats the issue of interracial relationships and their implications on their communities and vice versa. It’s nothing interracial couples don’t already know about but it shows how back in the day, it was really rough and took a toll on mixed lovers.

If you can kill your own child because she brought ‘shame’ to you, then you never really loved her. That’s why I started with those reasons, testing myself to see where I would fail. I would be PISSED OFF – if my daughter got pregnant, or went into porn, or committed incest, but I would never bloody kill her! That thought doesn’t exist in my head. If someone touched her, like sexually assaulted her, fine, then I would kill him! Wholeheartedly! I would confess and I wouldn’t make a fuss about it. I would kill that muthaf*cka and brutally end his life. But I would never kill my own child. I could scream at her! Fight with her, argue with her, make her grow up with daddy issues but I would never freaking kill her. And she could abuse that ‘privilege’ all she wants and get away with it but I just wouldn’t do it, so good riddance. Mess up your life if you want but I ain’t touchin’ you.

And the same would apply to my son if I have one, because honor killings relate to males as well, though not as often. In those cases, the families of the girl the male has a relationship with, murder the dude for bringing ‘shame’ to her family. This is most often the case when males are executed. So the poor guy gets taken out.

Another sick fact about honor killings is that they often get carried out by the brother of the girl to be killed, especially if he’s a minor. That’s because that way it will have less legal gravity than when an adult commits the crime. So get the kids to do it! And if they refuse, they probably get beaten up too and done good. When I research about things like this, I honestly feel bad for girls across the world. I say this carefully. I don’t speak down on females, I don’t think it’s a problem to be a girl. You’re beautiful, awesome creatures who brighten up this goddamn world and have a closer bond to the children you bear than a father ever would. But in this world we live, in many of these societies, so many females go through so much crap, with no one ever there to help them or save them from it. All they literally have is God and we the few who care have to hope that when the perpetrators die, God will extra-crisply deep fry these bastards in the deepest pits of Hell for all eternity to come. It’s the least we can wish for!

In this AlJazeera article, you’ll find out about a girl in Jordan who got killed by her brother because she got raped by another brother. So the murder was committed to restore ‘honor’ to the family. I’ll leave it at that and let you read the rest. This is the reason why I don’t blog so much because when I write about these issues, they seriously take a toll on me and I have to take a break for a while and get my life back in my soul again. No one tells you when you start that activism is a dark subject and the things you campaign for or fight against eat you alive. No one tells you that if you do it full-time and research hard into it every time, you will start to get nightmares about it and get traumatized by the texts you read and the pictures you see. No one tells you no one gives a damn because it’s mostly only the people who deal in the ‘industry’ who know about it and try and do something about it. Yeah, in the case of gender inequality, we finally have UN Women, but there’s really still a long way to go. And governments by and large don’t do sh*t to stop any of the crimes.

I’m going leave it here, I’m done writing about this. Read more about it on your own. Just follow this link or research honor killings on Google. You won’t get past the first page.

This article goes out to the innocent people who get killed in honor killings across the world. No one was there to save you, hardly anything is done about it, but all we survivors can do is hope and pray that these bozos who do this will burn more than the devil ever will. Amen!

Rest in Peace, Shafilea Ahmed. Roam through Heaven like the angel you are – as your numerous other counterparts!

Let LOVE be!

An Exposé of Mother Nature (Kindle Edition) Free on Amazon

Happy International Women’s Day! This event, I mark by giving my recent publication An Exposé of Mother Nature (Kindle Edition) away for free for the next 24 hours. That’s right, for the next full day, you can download the backstory of this blog and find out how it all happened to be visited from every continent of the world.

Get to see unreleased illustrations. Discover unpublished material, and learn about the story behind every published illustration here.

It’s an amazing walk through my mind’s eye and thought process. Welcome to Freespirit. 😉

Grab a copy and tell a friend to tell a friend to not forget about a friend. Let’s go viral.

Enjoy!

Deception, Psychosis, and Gaslighting For Sexual Abuse

Right, another blog post about, you guessed it, sex crimes… (yay)! OK, enough of my twisted self. Just watched a movie called An Amish Sin. It starts heavy. Like basically what my first article on incest is about: a fatherly figure using deception to rape a minor.

In my first article, I write about how pedo dads deceive their daughters to win their trust. Do girly things with them, be ever so involved when they ‘play’ with them. The list goes on. It’s basically to make the little girl feel completely at home and trusting of her dad. Then when the dad wants to strike, he drops it like it’s hot and goes all in. In Amish Sin, it’s an uncle who goes into his daughter’s bedroom and slowly begins raping her. Hardcore stuff to come now, leave if you don’t have the stomach for this.

As the uncle begins to undress his child, she refuses, knowing instinctively something is wrong, this is inappropriate, wtf? The pedo uncle doesn’t care and constantly ‘reassures’ her, saying it’s ok, trying to make her believe it’s all good. They’re close, after all. They have a special bond. So the uncle begins to penetrate her. This girl is a minor, under 13 years old. She shouts in pain, the uncle doesn’t care, he keeps on shushing his niece who’s being traumatized, encouraging her to ‘let it happen’. With every thrust into her, her trust breaks, her psychology shatters, and her feeling of safety in her own home disappears. The uncle even begins singing a song, trying to soothe the resisting girl, anything to get that lay on. So now we have two things addressed for the perpetrator: deception to ‘win’ the girl over, and psychosis to carry out the crime. Psychosis is a complete disconnection from reality. Psychotic people live in a reality for themselves and do not identify with normality. Psychotic people are not always dangerous but when they are criminally-minded, they can be nefarious.

I should have added narcissism to the headline. For a pedo uncle to rape his own niece, he has to be pretty narcissistic, as well. Narcissism isn’t just about over-praising yourself, narcissists feel entitled to what they want, too – whether it’s good or bad. So when a psycho, pedo uncle has the hots for his girl child, he feels he has the right to hit it and get some from her. Again, psychotic people and narcissists have no feeling of remorse of any kind because they’re disconnected from reality. So the psychologies they break, the lives they ruin – they don’t care. They feel, ‘This is mine. End of.’ That’s why when you meet a narcissist or a psycho, run the other way, regardless of what they mean to you. Both conditions, like any mental illness, cannot be cured and in the end, their damage to you will just destroy you.

Anyway, back to the film. I hate to spoil it for you, but it also deals with the only solution which is to leave the abuser and rebuild your life from the broken pieces. I relate to that. I’ve been shattered and am still reeling from things I haven’t healed from. Some have had it easy, some went through so much psychological and emotional abuse as kids and growing up that they don’t know any other way but to be broken. That’s why it’s so easy to relate to people suffering. You always see yourself in them.

Now, another topic An Amish Sin covers is the mind games the perpetrator plays on the victim after the ‘deed’ is done. Anytime the girl tries to confront the assailant, he just flips the script and makes it seem like it was her fault and he’s the victim! Like, ‘Why did you tempt me? You whore! How could you be so cunning? You’re a bad person! (Even though he’s referring to a girl child but he sticks with his tempted-story. Remember the psychosis.) And the younger the victim is, the more ‘gullible’ she can be made to believe the dastardly mind games of a f*cking child-raping pedophile. Women who get raped often blame themselves for the ordeal. And these are grown women. Imagine how much worse it must be for a pre-pubescent girl. And real talk, there are thousands of girls going through this in their family homes, all over the world. Many of these incidents go unreported. Like, ‘Who is gonna listen to me?’, the girls think. ‘I’ve already lost my faith in authority figures so screw it!’ And then some of these girls continue to get abused growing up, go into porn acting, or prostitution since abuse is all they know and are familiar with. Pretty hardcore. Nice and cheerful topic. Always rosy what I talk about.

If I have a daughter or son for that matter, I will by default be on their side. They come home, say someone did this or that, I’m on my kid’s side. Someone called them this or that, made them cry, I’m on my kid’s side. They bullied some dude, vandalized something, I’m still on my kid’s side, although I’ll be like, ‘Yo,… you can’t be doing that!’ privately. That may make me a bad citizen, but I will never put my community above my kids. My kids come first, regardless. It is very painful when, as a kid, you go through some sh*t, and you go to your dad for help and all he does is take society’s side. Because he’s too scared of other people and cares more about being a ‘good’ citizen. As a child, seeing that betrayal, that let-down is a huge disappointment to contend with. Like there goes my respect for you. So much for being a father figure. In the movie, after reporting to her dad she got raped, her dad beat her up instead, accusing her of ‘tempting’ the assailant. This is the kind of stuff women have to go through! Like wtf??

The thing makes my blood boil. Anyway, the gaslighting part of the sexual abuse is to invalidate the victim’s accusations and control the perception of her and himself, among others. So, play mind games, make her think she’s crazy, and get everyone to think she brought it onto herself because she’s so defiled, slutty, and trash. Gaslighting is an incredibly satanic form of mental abuse. Gaslighters, people who gaslight you, plant seeds of lies and bullsh*t in your mind and get you to doubt and question yourself. They repeat this over and over. Then when you try to address the crap and confront the bastards, they make it seem like you’re psychotic, out of touch with reality, and need help. When in fact it’s actually them who need saving. Like with narcissists, when you meet gaslighters, whoever they are, and however they’re related to you, the only way to ‘win’ is to walk the other direction and never go back. Only God can deal with wickedness and when their time comes, they will burn profusely. Amen.

This article brought out more than I thought I’d write. Lately, I’ve noticed certain things, people, and situations that trigger me. And I notice right thereafter that I’m in need of healing that. Like I said, I’m still reeling from some things I haven’t healed from. Like Selena Gomez says at the end of her documentary, ‘I’m a work in progress.’ Big movie by the way. It lets you know when you struggle, when you go through an uphill task, you’re not the only one. And that gives you the strength to move on and hang in there.

I hate to be some sick, psycho, and always talk about bad news, but as you have read this article, somewhere in the world a young girl below 13 years of age is being raped by a fatherly figure, a person of authority in her life. Just visualize that. Imagine how she feels, what she’s going through. How she’s crying, writhing in pain, bleeding from her genitals, and no one is coming to help her… ever!

Pretty grim, huh? Dark stuff? Yeah, let’s talk about superficial nonsense instead and wait for iPhone 15 Pro Max. You know, the important things.

Nuff respect. Always love you, society!

Peace.

Investigative Journalism Love

Happy new year. This post is probably not going to be overly long. Watched a movie not too long ago and came across some stats that relate, so I thought I might add them here. They put a spin on something I never realized: that people in the media go through quite a bit of gender inequality, too. I know about the glass ceiling and all, have written about it, but it’s staggering when you see how rife gender inequality in the press is.

Anyway, here are the stats. I got them from a Reuters course on journalism I’m doing. They better not beef me for mentioning it, I’m referencing them nonetheless.

“According to the International Federation of Journalists Survey
• A 2018 survey found female journalists are targeted the most (in online harassment when covering sensitive/controversial topics)
• 3X: Women receive more abuse on Twitter than their male counterparts
Mapping Media Freedom Survey
(May 2014 and September 2018)
• 176 cases of online harassment of correspondents — or nearly one a week
• 63% said these attacks caused psychological effects such as anxiety or stress
• 38% admitted to self-censorship
• 8% lost their job
UNESCO and ICFJ Joint Survey
(September to November 2020 global survey taken by 1,210 international media workers)
• 73% of female respondents said they had experienced online abuse, harassment, threats, and attacks.
• 20% of the women reported being targeted with offline abuse and attacks that they believe were connected with online violence they had experienced.
Journalists who are victims of online harassment often find online platforms, publications, or the police unsympathetic or ill-prepared to deal with their complaints.”

These stats relate to the States. Got me thinking. The police are ill-prepared or unwilling to follow up on reports. More than two-thirds of journalists surveyed say they experience anxiety or stress because of online threats and bullying. Hardcore. And then like three-quarters of journalists say they have experienced some form of online attack.

That you have to have thick skin for the job doesn’t even begin to describe it. I kinda always thought journalists were sorta ‘immune’ (stupid word, I know) to these kinda things. Until you see how it affects them and you realize they’re just people like everyone else (D’uh!). You see quite a lot of that in the movie I watched called She Said. I didn’t really wanna watch the movie at first, because I knew I’d probably write about it but when I saw these stats, I was like, ‘F*ck that, post it.’

We’ve become desensitized to reporters being ignored, treated like crap, insulted, and threatened. How many movies have we seen in our lifetime, where there’s a press conference and the reporters are always made to seem like a horde of wild animals who are so uncivilized and therefore deserve to be treated like lesser humans? Like the silent treatment is OK. Or when a lawyer and a client come out of a courthouse and the reporters flock around them. It’s the same scene. Maybe I watch (way) too many thrillers and action flicks but it negates the profession of journalism (heavily). Like, who would want to be a reporter after they see them being treated like trash nonstop in movies? (Seriously!) It’s probably the same reason some choose to be law enforcement agents (despite the barrage of criticism), and others choose to be nurses (despite the long hours and crap pay). Someone’s gotta do it, and in the end, it’s a means to pay the bills… since crime is illegal (except for politicians).

It’s kind of ironic coming from me, saying all this. I tend to be critical of the media for being one-sided, and not trusting of the police because of police brutality but when you put these links together, you can’t help but feel differently, still. The anchors we see on TV, reporting the news, interviewing people on air, etc – they get hurt when they experience rudeness or people trolling them… just like you and me. It put things in perspective for me. Thank God I’ve never beefed with a reporter online. I just ignore their content. They’ll probably body me anyway.

Show your (local) reporter some love. We may live in polarized times, whether natural or induced, but the reporters by and large are still standing up for the truth and putting themselves out there. Straight up unsung heroes stuff. Like soldiers when they come back from war with PTSD etc. Rough.

I was born and grew up in a dictatorship. I first voted when I was 18. Until the advent of democracy in Nigeria, blood-thirsty soldiers ran the day – and they ruled with an iron fist. Every week on some day driving to school, you would see corpses on roads and highways. Extra-judicial killings and people ‘disappearing’ were the unspoken facts of life. There was a magazine called Tell that defiantly and courageously stood against the military regimes by reporting about what really was happening beneath the surface and how the political opposition was mobilizing against it. The publication quickly became blacklisted by the government and the press had to go underground. As a civilian, simply being seen with a copy of the magazine was enough to get you shot, tortured, and killed. People did not care, though, and purchased the mags on the down low, like people still buy weed today. I’m no democracy groupie who ignores all the red flags that exist, but from my background, I can appreciate that the worst democracy is still better than the best dictatorship. Soldiers belong in the barracks, off the streets, and definitely not in government. And the press, no matter how biased they may themselves be, and stifle diversity in opinion themselves (to go with the flow and not be shut down or ‘blacklisted’), is always a key segment in the foundation of a functioning society. Take the press away and you have military governments promising the best, only to turn evil and nefarious over time. I could name many countries as examples but the kid in me who grew up in dictatorships knows I know better. Do your own research if you wanna know (something people are incapable of doing nowadays – they have their minds made up for them by reading editorials, instead).

I think I see why I took that Reuters course. The truther in me (however naive to some extent) still believes in values and principles of truth and freedom.

Shout out to (investigative) journalists out there. Big up for the stellar work they (regularly) do. Reminds me of a big movie I watched: Spotlight. Remember? If that’s not a big movie, go watch the Teletubbies.

Have a happy new year, y’all. May we reach our goals and overcome all obstacles that will present themselves this year.

Peace!

Are you saying it how it is or because she’s a woman?

Sex by Water

Maybe we need to write about it more. Maybe it doesn’t get (nearly) enough public attention. Maybe because it’s endemic to impoverished countries, people don’t really care. Whatever the case may be, as always, (young) women suffer in silence.

One of the things that really upsets me is that (many) issues of gender inequality are known in ‘the industry’ but not elsewhere, meaning that the people who talk about it and fight against it know about it, but that’s it. If you’d talk to a (random) guy about it, he’d think it’s a women’s issue. I’ve written here years ago that there are even ignorant women about this, simply because they have it so good. You can’t really blame anyone, it’s more profitable to cover scandals and sensationalism in the media than it is to talk about what actually affects the many.

Anyway, so this article is about young women having to exchange sexual favours to get (somewhat) potable water. What those favours may be, you can let your imagination wander and be sure whatever you think of probably gets done in real life. To give you an idea first, if you never lived or grew up in Black Africa, public water supply doesn’t exist in many African countries. I come from Lagos, Nigeria, and in my life living there, from kid to adult, I have never once experienced public water supply. Ironically, though, some people still get bills for a service they never enjoyed. With 200 million people in Nigeria, for example, every household is de facto its own government, in that you have to build a well in your compound if you want to provide water to your house. And if you’re not middle class or rich, and live in slum-like settings, then you have to buy gallons and large buckets to store water in, that you fetch from pumps you can walk to that are somewhat in the area.

And that’s where the story lies. This article isn’t about Nigeria alone, but many African countries that like Nigeria, til this day let the masses suffer and live in squalor.

I wrote about female poverty and fetching water from miles away several years but I was focusing on female poverty. It’s part of a book I planned to write but never did, I only drew the pictures. Oh well. Anyway, fetching water, in countries where public water is (virtually) inexistent, is largely a female thing. It’s so cumbersome, physically-tiring and time-consuming that most girls who engage in it, drop out of school altogether because they can’t do both at once. So they often stay at home, fetch water all day and help their moms with cooking, cleaning and household chores.

Yay!

It’s not uncommon for girls to walk in the blazing heat of at least 30 degrees Celsius for at least an hour to either a ‘water depot’ or a murky dirty river with brownish water. If they get to a water pump, a place where there’s a well or a tap they get water from, they usually queue for ages with their numerous large gallons to carry back home, on their head. And if they live in a rural environment and have to go to the nearest pond several miles away in the middle of some bush, they contend with snakes and other dangerous animals on the way. If anything happens to them and they get injured in some way, they are miles away from any clinic or hospital and even if they could get there for help, their families wouldn’t have any money to pay for treatment.

They do this all day every day. The way a normal household uses water for sanitation, personal hygiene and cooking, is the way super-poor people have do the same without any public water supply, or water from a tap in their homes, or large water tank that stores all their water for a week or two. That doesn’t exist. We’re not talking of the middle class here.

This was before the pandemic. Life was this great before there was a curfew worldwide. Since the lockdown, in places like Kenya, the poor have to deal with even more misery like suffering even more to get what we all need and can’t live without: water.

Oh, and I forgot to say; aside from going through hell just to fetch water, a lot of girls get sexually assaulted from the male water vendors in the process. You know, the guys in the slums or villages who control the water pumps, tanks and wells and make money from it – because they’re such good people. These criminals know these girls are super-poor so they extort sexual favours from them or they do things like hike prices indiscriminately. They even have a word for that: sextortion. I suppose in an age where sexting is a word, I shouldn’t be too surprised. Anyway – there needs to be an article about (presumably) single men who think it’s OK to sexploit (another new word) young women as acceptable payment for essential services like getting water. Like… even if you do sleep with the girl… how do you get paid? How do you recoup the missing money? I’m just wondering, like is the sex that good that your money problems go away? The irony is most communities frown upon female prostitutes. Men call them low-lives (even though they widely patronize them), but what do you call these so called water hawkers who pimp themselves out just to get some action?

Men can hoe but they’re never seen as such.

So basically, the lockdown creates a squeeze on everyone and desperation rises through the roof. The already vulnerable become even more vulnerable and have no one to turn to. At least there’s God.

In the midst of the pandemic there has been an increase in sexual assaults on girls fetching water. It’s so traumatizing that many of the victims, wake up super early (like 4am) just to get out the house, in the pitch black and walk for ages to get water before all the hoodlums come out and start harassing again. Talk about fear. What a life. To live in fear. Don’t you just love society? Yay!

You can’t blame these girls. They’re looking out for themselves. A lot of them don’t even say anything when they’re molested because they fear if they do, they’ll get beat up in retaliation. Yeah, those are my favourite type of guys. The ones who can’t get any so they harass and sextort and if they don’t get what they want, they beat up the girls (and rape them afterwards anyway). Gotta love (some of) the male breed. Stand up guys.

What’s even more worrying, but very common in Africa, is if these male rapists and sex offenders do get reported and taken to authority, they simply bribe their way out and return to the community they got arrested in to weed out the girls who ‘ratted’ on them, and beat them up. So you’re damned if you do, and damned if you don’t. Get sexploited, refuse advances, get beat up. Get sexploited, let it happen, possibly get raped. Get sexploited, call the police, get hunted down and beaten up.

This is the brutal reality hundreds of thousands of girls have to deal with in Africa – EVERY SINGLE DAY!

Because even though we’re an incredibly riverine continent, public water supply is a pipe dream and an outright luxury for many. I’ve never known of public water supply until I came to Rwanda. And when I think about it, I still get shocked, like it’s not normal in Africa.

So what’s my point? My point is fetching water is overwhelmingly a female business except they don’t get paid for it. Instead they often have to pay for the goods, at a price no female ever should: with their bodies. And the only people who tend to know about some isolated reported cases are some activists and NGOs. It needs to be understood that what is known about sex crimes against women, that which is publicly reported, is often much less than what is actually being perpetrated – especially rape.

Now about sex crimes. It doesn’t hurt to rehash what we know. When females get sexually violated or raped, they’re traumatized. They’re inflicted a trauma that often lasts a lifetime. Women often feel ‘dirty’ after they get raped, they try to ‘wash’ off that feeling of filth and disgust, but that’s the trauma – and the psychological breakdown. All over the world, in industrialized countries included, the majority of raped women don’t report being raped. Mostly not ever, but sometimes they keep it in for decades before they open up. Again, to no fault of their own, something like rape breaks down and shuts down the person inside. Something you think you naturally have control and autonomy over – your own body – gets violated and sexually abused and that completely causes you a mental breakdown.

Because if you have no autonomy over your own body, what do you have control over?

Women who have been raped or sexually assaulted can (often) become aggressive. It’s a ‘natural’ defense mechanism to regain control of one’s self after an incident of sexual crime. Like, ‘They’ll never catch me off-guard again!’

You were never off-guard – you were raped.

And that’s what many girls and young women go through – because fetching water in Africa isn’t grueling enough. And (the) men, simply don’t care! ‘As long as I can get p*ssy, why should I bother? She probably liked it anyway.’

Arrogance and chauvinism – alive and well in this world.

Anyway, I got a lot of this info from IPS News Agency. They’re a dope resource about gender inequality. If we can’t have public water supply across impoverished countries, at least we can help create wells where poor communities need them most. Head over to Water.org and sign up to make regular donations so hopefully in our lifetime, we can stop seeing incidents of this nature happening to people whose lives are already pretty bad.

Every little helps.

Stay safe.

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  In the middle of the wild, in the hot sun, fetching heavy containers of water – and they’re so young!

Related reading: Separated Unity

Legalized Kiddie Porn

I don’t know where to start. You could say this is a continuation of A Journey Into Child Porn but I didn’t even know it had a sequel… until recently.

In that article, I talked about how open child pornography is on the Internet. It’s not dark web stuff at all. What I didn’t realize is that it’s not just videos that are on search engines – it’s on social media, too!!!

Pinterest, the world’s most popular social bookmarking site is full of them. And the chronically disturbing thing about it is that it’s ‘curated’ by people who think it’s ‘exotic’ or ‘cultural’.

When I discovered this, I seriously didn’t want to write about it. I was like, ‘Eff that, I wrote A Journey already, I’m done!’

This evening when I was browsing through my Pinterest for the first time in a while, I realized the algorithm has now included those wonderfully sick pics in my feed as well. Because back then, I was opening the pics from the search engine, on my Pinterest app as was suggested. Now Pinterest thinks I’m a pedo. And according to them, it’s not even a big deal because it’s from people who post these grotesque pics as ‘exotic’, ‘tribal’, and ‘cultural’.

Nobody in their right thinking mind wants to see little 9 year old titties. There’s nothing sexy about pre-teens butt naked online. You cannot get aroused by a female kid who doesn’t know any better, being compelled to ‘smile’ into the camera by a goddamn kiddie-lover photographer. It doesn’t make it any better if the photographer is a woman either! There’s no ‘Oh, we’re female so it’s OK.’

If indigenous and tribal people want to live butt naked in the wilderness, that’s their prerogative, but it is not right to sexploit them in the name of ‘art’.

There’s nothing artistic about pedophilia.

I swear, all these people who post these pix should be called out and put on a sex offenders list regularly broadcasted on the world’s mainstream media for life!

But hey… I don’t rule the world.

Anyway,…

Here are the links I uncovered. I warn you, you have never seen images so graphic before so don’t tell me I didn’t warn you. Stuff like this sticks with you. You can’t unsee it. It stays in your psyche.

Anyway – I typed ‘naked african tribe girls‘ in Google Images. From the collage alone, you see all the minors who are ‘posing’ for the camera. So, I list a few of the links where even a blind man can see the girls in the pics are bloody minors.

Anyway – here are some links:

• Naked girls from african tribe
• Naked African Tribal Girls Sex (graphic porn site, with some minors nonetheless)
• Young Naked – African Pictures (extremely graphic child porn site. you be the judge)

It gets worse in the list so I don’t bother. Now, here are the social media links. I search on Google for ‘naked african tribe girls pinterest‘. What do I get? This:

• girls (Girls! LITERALLY girls! How can the poster who’s called Wylie Human (that’s rich), think exposing child nudity is normal so we just call it girls. FFS!!! You can’t tell me the people who look at these pictures are interested in culture and travel! They’re f*cking pedo perverts who jack off to little kids and get away with it because it’s on PINTEREST!!!)
• naked african little girls (At least here, the poster was honest about his child love: he admits they’re little girls!!!)
• African Beauty (nude teenage girl pics mixed with naked women pics. All legal!)

I know it’s not easy but by all means, scroll down the infinite pics of every link and see how much child porn is not just on search engines. Sometimes exclusive, sometimes mixed with ‘normal’ porn. Oh, and once you view these pics on Pinterest, the Pinterest algorithm will also start showing more of these pics in your normal feed henceforth because it now thinks you’re into child porn. But it’s OK, it’s on Pinterest!! So it’s legal…

Now, you can expand your search on Google even more with the following:

• naked asian tribe girls
• naked pacific islander tribe girls
• naked latin american tribe girls

The content exists, once again, on Pinterest aswell:

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• Papua Solomon Islands
• (Nudity warning) Southeast Asian people (wow, they’re actually warning us! I guess that makes posting child porn alright.)

Saying 25% of Google searches are porn related is an understatement. Porn really is the foundation of the worldwide web and child porn is very much woven into that fabric. People just don’t know it yet.

Here’s a site that fights sexual abuse and violence against tribe girls in India. Donate if you can.

Tribe girl and women empowerment centre

Here are resources that address violence on tribe girls:

• ELIMINATION AND RESPONSES TO VIOLENCE, EXPLOITATION AND ABUSE OF INDIGENOUS GIRLS, ADOLESCENTS AND YOUNG WOMEN
• India NGO CEDAW Shadow Report And status of Adivasi/Tribal Women in India
• Addressing the Epidemic of Missing & Murdered Indigenous Women and Girls
• National Indigenous Women’s Resource Center – Violence Against Native Women Is Not Traditional
• Ending Violence Against Native Women
• Breaking the Silence on Violence against Indigenous Girls, Adolescents and Young Women
• VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN AND GIRLS DOES NOT KNOW A TRIBE OR RELIGION

Stay safe.

B*tches and Hoes

‘Move bitch! Get out the way!’

‘Rub that shit it’s yours, bitch!’ (I actually like that song.)

‘There some whores in this house.’

‘No matter where I go, I see the same hoe.’

‘Uh huh! These hoes!’

‘I party abroad. I got a wife and a broad.’

‘These hoes ain’t loyal.’

‘I tell the hoes all the time, ‘Bitch, get in my car.”

‘Lot of my bitches be coming from miles around.’

I could go on and on, but I think you get the picture. I know I’ve talked about it before but I wanna center on it. Rap music and R&B is some hardcore chauvinistic music. I didn’t just wake up to it but it dawned on me again today when I listened to Drake. I was like, ‘WTF?’

Why is this ‘development’ so disturbing? Well, for starters, a few years ago, rap music became the most popular form of music in America. Nowadays, rap and R&B make up more than a third of the U.S. music industry – being listened to more than rock, in a predominantly White country. That’s a big deal. And by promoting ‘Black music’ to the fullest extent, you shape an entire culture and demographic with it. It doesn’t really matter if you don’t listen to rap anymore, pop music in general is aimed at young adults in their 20s. So, unless you ‘compromise’ your standards and listen to younger artists, your age group of 30+ isn’t considered anymore. You’re ‘out’.

What’s disturbing is the section of young people and teenagers in society who are greatly shaped by popular music. They literally absorb everything that is said and done and try to copy as much of it as possible in their own lives. So, if Cardi B calls herself a whore in WAP, 12 year old girls will proudly call themselves whores, too – thinking that makes them hip and successful. It doesn’t.

I know I may be way down the line, but when did calling women whores become acceptable? And if you don’t like a girl for whatever reason, ‘it’s OK’ to call her a bitch. I don’t know when it started, probably when gangsta rap went mainstream, but rap music has played a big part in this and still does. All the ‘new’ rappers who come in the spotlight, just take up the narrative and keep it going. ‘Fuck bitches! Get money!’, ‘I ain’t marrying no bitch!’, ‘Get some hoes!’ Those are not lyrics from any song but are contextual from 99% of rap and R&B tracks.

If you have no plans of escaping ‘the matrix’, and living somewhere remote, off-grid, in a jungle somewhere with no phones and no wi-fi, then not being affected by popular culture is next to impossible. The same applies if you have younger family members or kids. The omnipresence of Hollywood simply cannot be escaped, especially if you live in or around a city. And you don’t just have to be living in America or the West. Hollywood is the foundation of the global entertainment industry. It’s globalization at its most concentrated form. Now, that’s not necessarily a bad thing. We’re such diversified people across thousands of tribes and ethnicities that a little unity is nice. When you see the derogatory messages and despicable subtle themes that permeate music and movies, though, you can’t help but to worry for your little ones.

It’s a full-time job parenting kids watching TV. You’re constantly surfing through channels to find kid-friendly content that doesn’t have ‘too overly’ disturbing content. Because you refuse to brainwash your kid with garbage. But you can’t stop it all. Some stuff still gets through that takes root in their subconscious and plays out later in their lives. Like kids seeing adult body parts in old cartoons, and later become sex-infatuated as teenagers and adults. Disney is a huge proponent of this.

Anyway, back to music. The point I’m making is this. Popular culture plays a massive role in our lives and influences us into late adulthood. It’s called social engineering and even though that’s another story, it’s all part of shaping us to be and act according to a certain narrative. Like, if you’re Black, listen to hip-hop and speak in ebonics. Smoke weed and don’t aim too high in life, it’s considered selling-out.

Or if you’re a White young woman in a city somewhere in the West, be neurotic, don’t get a grip on your emotions and daydream your life away without ever doing anything about it. Yes, life is a romcom movie.

You get the point. I could go on and on but can’t be bothered. And before you call me a misogynist or chauvinist (blablabla), watch a couple of ‘Black’ or ‘ghetto’ movies and see how Blacks are portrayed. Watch a couple of romcoms and observe how White women are portrayed. ‘Watch some ‘international’ films from Hollywood like Babel and see how the foreigners are portrayed. These are just a few examples of dominant narratives in motion picture that get reinforced over and over again. It’s the agenda of social engineering.

What a world we would live in if we actually got socially engineered to be respectful of another and help each other and fight oppression of any kind together. How different the world would be. No more parents having to watch TV with kids for fear. No more limiting what the younger generations are exposed to, for fear of watching them go off the rails.

Typical of me, I slightly went off tangent again. I started with chauvinism in rap and ended up at Hollywood and TV, but they’re all related to each other and play dominant parts in the shaping of society and social identity. Music and movies are foundational to culture. And together with language and attire, it impresses a person and a people. These bedrocks of our culture are upheld according to negative values and you truly have to be ‘woke’ to notice the (often) subtle conditioning. So, most people aren’t even themselves: they’re who they think they should be. And like Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, ‘To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.’

Nuff said.

Check out the links below for more on the topic:

Rap Is Leading the Music Industry’s Resurgence

American rap industry total value (check out the questions about rap)

Goldman Sachs Bets On Hip Hop And Millennials For Music Revival (Goldman was one of the early investors of Facebook – look how that turned out. This investment banking giant bets on kids and rap, proving from a strictly financial point of view, kids and rap go together. Shouldn’t then the message of rap be policed, as it heavily affects the shaping of kids?)

The women of hip-hop: sex bombs and villains

The Effects of Hip-Hop and Rap on Young Women in Academia (dope thesis)

‘You a bad bitch, come and get your rent paid!’

Universal Slavery

Another pic from my Facebook in 2015. I’ve talked about these stats previously on this blog. People always think slavery was the Trans-Atlantic one of Black Africans. That was only the boldest, most pronounced one.

Slavery never ended. From human trafficking, sex trafficking & gender inequality, slavery all over the world is very much alive and well. And females are the biggest exploited & most unacknowledged commodity on the planet. And the slave traders, the perpetrators are all men. It’s the largest organized crime network known to man but denied by governments (because most government ‘leaders’ sexploit women behind the scenes too, like Berlusconi).

In the sex trafficking industry, women are also involved in the trafficking, but they’re mainly reduced to the roles of ‘madames’ of brothels and handlers of victims (sometimes – handlers are usually men because they exercise force and violence).

Keep on thinking because there’s JLo, Queen Elizabeth & Christine Lagarde that women have it well.

You couldn’t be more fooled.

Slavery never ended.

To get more information about gender inequality and how you can help eradicate it, check out Plan International, the guys who made this pic.

Happy end of lockdown.