Deception, Psychosis, and Gaslighting For Sexual Abuse

Right, another blog post about, you guessed it, sex crimes… (yay)! OK, enough of my twisted self. Just watched a movie called An Amish Sin. It starts heavy. Like basically what my first article on incest is about: a fatherly figure using deception to rape a minor.

In my first article, I write about how pedo dads deceive their daughters to win their trust. Do girly things with them, be ever so involved when they ‘play’ with them. The list goes on. It’s basically to make the little girl feel completely at home and trusting of her dad. Then when the dad wants to strike, he drops it like it’s hot and goes all in. In Amish Sin, it’s an uncle who goes into his daughter’s bedroom and slowly begins raping her. Hardcore stuff to come now, leave if you don’t have the stomach for this.

As the uncle begins to undress his child, she refuses, knowing instinctively something is wrong, this is inappropriate, wtf? The pedo uncle doesn’t care and constantly ‘reassures’ her, saying it’s ok, trying to make her believe it’s all good. They’re close, after all. They have a special bond. So the uncle begins to penetrate her. This girl is a minor, under 13 years old. She shouts in pain, the uncle doesn’t care, he keeps on shushing his niece who’s being traumatized, encouraging her to ‘let it happen’. With every thrust into her, her trust breaks, her psychology shatters, and her feeling of safety in her own home disappears. The uncle even begins singing a song, trying to soothe the resisting girl, anything to get that lay on. So now we have two things addressed for the perpetrator: deception to ‘win’ the girl over, and psychosis to carry out the crime. Psychosis is a complete disconnection from reality. Psychotic people live in a reality for themselves and do not identify with normality. Psychotic people are not always dangerous but when they are criminally-minded, they can be nefarious.

I should have added narcissism to the headline. For a pedo uncle to rape his own niece, he has to be pretty narcissistic, as well. Narcissism isn’t just about over-praising yourself, narcissists feel entitled to what they want, too – whether it’s good or bad. So when a psycho, pedo uncle has the hots for his girl child, he feels he has the right to hit it and get some from her. Again, psychotic people and narcissists have no feeling of remorse of any kind because they’re disconnected from reality. So the psychologies they break, the lives they ruin – they don’t care. They feel, ‘This is mine. End of.’ That’s why when you meet a narcissist or a psycho, run the other way, regardless of what they mean to you. Both conditions, like any mental illness, cannot be cured and in the end, their damage to you will just destroy you.

Anyway, back to the film. I hate to spoil it for you, but it also deals with the only solution which is to leave the abuser and rebuild your life from the broken pieces. I relate to that. I’ve been shattered and am still reeling from things I haven’t healed from. Some have had it easy, some went through so much psychological and emotional abuse as kids and growing up that they don’t know any other way but to be broken. That’s why it’s so easy to relate to people suffering. You always see yourself in them.

Now, another topic An Amish Sin covers is the mind games the perpetrator plays on the victim after the ‘deed’ is done. Anytime the girl tries to confront the assailant, he just flips the script and makes it seem like it was her fault and he’s the victim! Like, ‘Why did you tempt me? You whore! How could you be so cunning? You’re a bad person! (Even though he’s referring to a girl child but he sticks with his tempted-story. Remember the psychosis.) And the younger the victim is, the more ‘gullible’ she can be made to believe the dastardly mind games of a f*cking child-raping pedophile. Women who get raped often blame themselves for the ordeal. And these are grown women. Imagine how much worse it must be for a pre-pubescent girl. And real talk, there are thousands of girls going through this in their family homes, all over the world. Many of these incidents go unreported. Like, ‘Who is gonna listen to me?’, the girls think. ‘I’ve already lost my faith in authority figures so screw it!’ And then some of these girls continue to get abused growing up, go into porn acting, or prostitution since abuse is all they know and are familiar with. Pretty hardcore. Nice and cheerful topic. Always rosy what I talk about.

If I have a daughter or son for that matter, I will by default be on their side. They come home, say someone did this or that, I’m on my kid’s side. Someone called them this or that, made them cry, I’m on my kid’s side. They bullied some dude, vandalized something, I’m still on my kid’s side, although I’ll be like, ‘Yo,… you can’t be doing that!’ privately. That may make me a bad citizen, but I will never put my community above my kids. My kids come first, regardless. It is very painful when, as a kid, you go through some sh*t, and you go to your dad for help and all he does is take society’s side. Because he’s too scared of other people and cares more about being a ‘good’ citizen. As a child, seeing that betrayal, that let-down is a huge disappointment to contend with. Like there goes my respect for you. So much for being a father figure. In the movie, after reporting to her dad she got raped, her dad beat her up instead, accusing her of ‘tempting’ the assailant. This is the kind of stuff women have to go through! Like wtf??

The thing makes my blood boil. Anyway, the gaslighting part of the sexual abuse is to invalidate the victim’s accusations and control the perception of her and himself, among others. So, play mind games, make her think she’s crazy, and get everyone to think she brought it onto herself because she’s so defiled, slutty, and trash. Gaslighting is an incredibly satanic form of mental abuse. Gaslighters, people who gaslight you, plant seeds of lies and bullsh*t in your mind and get you to doubt and question yourself. They repeat this over and over. Then when you try to address the crap and confront the bastards, they make it seem like you’re psychotic, out of touch with reality, and need help. When in fact it’s actually them who need saving. Like with narcissists, when you meet gaslighters, whoever they are, and however they’re related to you, the only way to ‘win’ is to walk the other direction and never go back. Only God can deal with wickedness and when their time comes, they will burn profusely. Amen.

This article brought out more than I thought I’d write. Lately, I’ve noticed certain things, people, and situations that trigger me. And I notice right thereafter that I’m in need of healing that. Like I said, I’m still reeling from some things I haven’t healed from. Like Selena Gomez says at the end of her documentary, ‘I’m a work in progress.’ Big movie by the way. It lets you know when you struggle, when you go through an uphill task, you’re not the only one. And that gives you the strength to move on and hang in there.

I hate to be some sick, psycho, and always talk about bad news, but as you have read this article, somewhere in the world a young girl below 13 years of age is being raped by a fatherly figure, a person of authority in her life. Just visualize that. Imagine how she feels, what she’s going through. How she’s crying, writhing in pain, bleeding from her genitals, and no one is coming to help her… ever!

Pretty grim, huh? Dark stuff? Yeah, let’s talk about superficial nonsense instead and wait for iPhone 15 Pro Max. You know, the important things.

Nuff respect. Always love you, society!

Peace.

What Rape Is Like

Hey, I’m back with another sex (crime) related blog. This is about rape – again. Just watched a movie about sex exploitation and how it is carried out. It’s dark, twisted sh*t, hard to stomach. I don’t know but when I watch scenes of rape in a movie, I find it difficult to follow through, even though it’s acting. Like when you’re an INFJ, you soak up everything. Emotional stimuli are overwhelming.

When women are raped, they usually get raped from the back. Most rape victims get bent over and raped. It’s ‘easier’ that way. Sick, isn’t it? Sounds like I have done it, but it is just research. Women also get raped while they’re lying on their back, but it’s not as often as from the back. You know, the whole psychology of intercoursing with a woman from the back is such that the man is the dominant one, controlling the flow and rhythm of sex. He has a lot of power over the woman in that instance, and pretty much can do as he pleases. Such high degree of power is not something women are de facto OK with giving away. That’s why a woman needs to be sure she can trust the man before engaging in such act. Even if it’s often done and no one talks about it. But this is a blog where I often talk about what nobody talks about so welcome to my X-ray.

If a woman doesn’t trust you, she will never bend over for you. I don’t care how good you are. Trust is a big thing not just in relationships but in sex, too. So women who do intercourse with men from the back, needless to say, trust their men. So much so, they do not even think about it. It just happens.

Now, imagine being forced to be bent over, your pants pulled down, and a man forced into you, with no lubrication or anything prep whatsoever. Not that lube and prep make it better, but you get my point. This is what rape victims go through. They get forced, stripped, (often) beaten, and violated, with nothing they can do to stop it. So in their panic, they tussle around, screaming, begging the rapist to stop, despite knowing nothing will change what they know is happening. It is pure hardcore, in the most twisted sense. Great weekend material I am writing here.

Anyway… most rape victims get raped by someone they know. Yeah, there are those women who get raped by stalkers or strangers, but a lot of women get raped by men they know. Back to the rape event. A woman is bent over a bed or table. Her pants are stripped down, she’s being pinned down against the surface, slapped, and struck a few times. She’s screaming, crying, begging the bastard to stop. He pulls down his pants, forces himself into her, and thrusts brutally into her over and over again. Rape by its very nature is violent. The thrusts are not ‘gentle’ and ‘tender’ – they are hard, ruthless, brutal, and excruciatingly unforgiving. And that’s what the woman goes through, still crying, screaming, begging for someone to help her, unable to do anything about this nightmare. Her life as she knows it collapses like WTC. Her psychology completely obliterates and breaks down. Now, couple this with the fact that the man raping her is someone she knows. Why he is so degenerate to do something like that and how she is in touch with someone like him in the first place, is not important. The point is, she’s being raped and going through this psychotic horror by someone she knows. That’s at the very least DOUBLE the psychological complete breakdown and anguish she’s going through. It takes her back to the psychology of being bent over by a man and the superior power he has over her in that moment. It’s nerve-wracking enough when things are good, and it’s consensual sex, and she knows he’s a nice guy… blablabla. Now imagine that girl getting raped, in a position that makes her helpless, no control over anything, being taken advantage of, raped, violated, forcefully penetrated. In her mind, her deepest, darkest fears materialize, that low probability event that could happen, where a man could abuse her, that takes place and part of her goes, ‘I told you so!!’

Now this blog is not advocating the end of doggystyle. Hell, I love it like hell, too. But I am simply taking you through the mind of a woman being raped and how it destroys her mind. Rape is something you can’t heal from. No matter how good your psychologist or psychiatrist is, they can’t and will never get you over the incident, and they know that. It f*cks up your mind permanently. Kinda like how infibulation makes women angry for life. It just shortcircuits your brain all f*cked up. Rape is so f*cked up an experience that most women and girls don’t report it when they do get raped. They’re too f*cked up to. It completely destroys their mind so they harbor their ‘secret’ even though all they want is to be helped and to have the ordeal reversed. It’s an especially satanic form of f*ckery. ‘I’m avoiding help even though inside I’m screaming for it!!’

This blog goes out to rape victims. I know I’ve talked a lot about this issue, but every time I watch a movie about sex crimes, it f*cks me up. Like I can’t just watch it and not do anything about it. It f*cks me up. So I write about it, trying to put that feeling that I felt, into my writing and try and get you to feel as much of it as possible. No, I’m not sorry. Stop reading my blog if you don’t like it. Shout out to all the rape victims all over the world. Sorry for having your trust in men ripped to shreds and your sense of safety over self, your own autonomy over your body torn away from you. Now you feel like, ‘If I can’t even protect my body, what am I good for?’ A lot of rape victims also blame themselves for the rape, it’s common, even though it’s not their fault. Hard stuff. It kinda makes you scared of having girls when you have kids. I’d love to have daughters but because I know how men think, I’ll be paranoid over my girls’ safety. And I don’t want to be overbearing and have them growing up with daddy issues. Welcome to parenthood, Dot! It’s a fine line between caring and f*cking up your children’s lives…(yay!).

Even though it’s hardcore and extremely hard to stomach, I propose we have kids watch rape movies once they hit puberty, all the way to senior high. Like make it part of the curriculum and show movies where females get raped and discuss every minute aspect of the incident with the whole class, so the girls can see what the world is like, and the boys can see what bastards they can be if they cross the line of no return. The earlier and more we sensitize our kids about rape, the less rape we can expect in the future. And for now, it should be a mandate that every rapist gets capital punishment, even in countries that don’t have the death penalty. If you kill a woman psychologically, you should be killed biologically.

Nuff said.

Anyway, watch Girl In Room 13, it’s hard, not easy to watch. They actually forcefully drug you before you become too intoxicated and abused to fight back, before they pimp you to the sex trade. RIP Anne Heche. What a waste of talent. But the movie reverberates the quote I once heard: the most dangerous place to be is between a mother and her child. Shout out to mother love.

I’m out. Fuck rapists. Burn them alive.

Nuff said.

Destroyed forever

Sex by Water

Maybe we need to write about it more. Maybe it doesn’t get (nearly) enough public attention. Maybe because it’s endemic to impoverished countries, people don’t really care. Whatever the case may be, as always, (young) women suffer in silence.

One of the things that really upsets me is that (many) issues of gender inequality are known in ‘the industry’ but not elsewhere, meaning that the people who talk about it and fight against it know about it, but that’s it. If you’d talk to a (random) guy about it, he’d think it’s a women’s issue. I’ve written here years ago that there are even ignorant women about this, simply because they have it so good. You can’t really blame anyone, it’s more profitable to cover scandals and sensationalism in the media than it is to talk about what actually affects the many.

Anyway, so this article is about young women having to exchange sexual favours to get (somewhat) potable water. What those favours may be, you can let your imagination wander and be sure whatever you think of probably gets done in real life. To give you an idea first, if you never lived or grew up in Black Africa, public water supply doesn’t exist in many African countries. I come from Lagos, Nigeria, and in my life living there, from kid to adult, I have never once experienced public water supply. Ironically, though, some people still get bills for a service they never enjoyed. With 200 million people in Nigeria, for example, every household is de facto its own government, in that you have to build a well in your compound if you want to provide water to your house. And if you’re not middle class or rich, and live in slum-like settings, then you have to buy gallons and large buckets to store water in, that you fetch from pumps you can walk to that are somewhat in the area.

And that’s where the story lies. This article isn’t about Nigeria alone, but many African countries that like Nigeria, til this day let the masses suffer and live in squalor.

I wrote about female poverty and fetching water from miles away several years but I was focusing on female poverty. It’s part of a book I planned to write but never did, I only drew the pictures. Oh well. Anyway, fetching water, in countries where public water is (virtually) inexistent, is largely a female thing. It’s so cumbersome, physically-tiring and time-consuming that most girls who engage in it, drop out of school altogether because they can’t do both at once. So they often stay at home, fetch water all day and help their moms with cooking, cleaning and household chores.

Yay!

It’s not uncommon for girls to walk in the blazing heat of at least 30 degrees Celsius for at least an hour to either a ‘water depot’ or a murky dirty river with brownish water. If they get to a water pump, a place where there’s a well or a tap they get water from, they usually queue for ages with their numerous large gallons to carry back home, on their head. And if they live in a rural environment and have to go to the nearest pond several miles away in the middle of some bush, they contend with snakes and other dangerous animals on the way. If anything happens to them and they get injured in some way, they are miles away from any clinic or hospital and even if they could get there for help, their families wouldn’t have any money to pay for treatment.

They do this all day every day. The way a normal household uses water for sanitation, personal hygiene and cooking, is the way super-poor people have do the same without any public water supply, or water from a tap in their homes, or large water tank that stores all their water for a week or two. That doesn’t exist. We’re not talking of the middle class here.

This was before the pandemic. Life was this great before there was a curfew worldwide. Since the lockdown, in places like Kenya, the poor have to deal with even more misery like suffering even more to get what we all need and can’t live without: water.

Oh, and I forgot to say; aside from going through hell just to fetch water, a lot of girls get sexually assaulted from the male water vendors in the process. You know, the guys in the slums or villages who control the water pumps, tanks and wells and make money from it – because they’re such good people. These criminals know these girls are super-poor so they extort sexual favours from them or they do things like hike prices indiscriminately. They even have a word for that: sextortion. I suppose in an age where sexting is a word, I shouldn’t be too surprised. Anyway – there needs to be an article about (presumably) single men who think it’s OK to sexploit (another new word) young women as acceptable payment for essential services like getting water. Like… even if you do sleep with the girl… how do you get paid? How do you recoup the missing money? I’m just wondering, like is the sex that good that your money problems go away? The irony is most communities frown upon female prostitutes. Men call them low-lives (even though they widely patronize them), but what do you call these so called water hawkers who pimp themselves out just to get some action?

Men can hoe but they’re never seen as such.

So basically, the lockdown creates a squeeze on everyone and desperation rises through the roof. The already vulnerable become even more vulnerable and have no one to turn to. At least there’s God.

In the midst of the pandemic there has been an increase in sexual assaults on girls fetching water. It’s so traumatizing that many of the victims, wake up super early (like 4am) just to get out the house, in the pitch black and walk for ages to get water before all the hoodlums come out and start harassing again. Talk about fear. What a life. To live in fear. Don’t you just love society? Yay!

You can’t blame these girls. They’re looking out for themselves. A lot of them don’t even say anything when they’re molested because they fear if they do, they’ll get beat up in retaliation. Yeah, those are my favourite type of guys. The ones who can’t get any so they harass and sextort and if they don’t get what they want, they beat up the girls (and rape them afterwards anyway). Gotta love (some of) the male breed. Stand up guys.

What’s even more worrying, but very common in Africa, is if these male rapists and sex offenders do get reported and taken to authority, they simply bribe their way out and return to the community they got arrested in to weed out the girls who ‘ratted’ on them, and beat them up. So you’re damned if you do, and damned if you don’t. Get sexploited, refuse advances, get beat up. Get sexploited, let it happen, possibly get raped. Get sexploited, call the police, get hunted down and beaten up.

This is the brutal reality hundreds of thousands of girls have to deal with in Africa – EVERY SINGLE DAY!

Because even though we’re an incredibly riverine continent, public water supply is a pipe dream and an outright luxury for many. I’ve never known of public water supply until I came to Rwanda. And when I think about it, I still get shocked, like it’s not normal in Africa.

So what’s my point? My point is fetching water is overwhelmingly a female business except they don’t get paid for it. Instead they often have to pay for the goods, at a price no female ever should: with their bodies. And the only people who tend to know about some isolated reported cases are some activists and NGOs. It needs to be understood that what is known about sex crimes against women, that which is publicly reported, is often much less than what is actually being perpetrated – especially rape.

Now about sex crimes. It doesn’t hurt to rehash what we know. When females get sexually violated or raped, they’re traumatized. They’re inflicted a trauma that often lasts a lifetime. Women often feel ‘dirty’ after they get raped, they try to ‘wash’ off that feeling of filth and disgust, but that’s the trauma – and the psychological breakdown. All over the world, in industrialized countries included, the majority of raped women don’t report being raped. Mostly not ever, but sometimes they keep it in for decades before they open up. Again, to no fault of their own, something like rape breaks down and shuts down the person inside. Something you think you naturally have control and autonomy over – your own body – gets violated and sexually abused and that completely causes you a mental breakdown.

Because if you have no autonomy over your own body, what do you have control over?

Women who have been raped or sexually assaulted can (often) become aggressive. It’s a ‘natural’ defense mechanism to regain control of one’s self after an incident of sexual crime. Like, ‘They’ll never catch me off-guard again!’

You were never off-guard – you were raped.

And that’s what many girls and young women go through – because fetching water in Africa isn’t grueling enough. And (the) men, simply don’t care! ‘As long as I can get p*ssy, why should I bother? She probably liked it anyway.’

Arrogance and chauvinism – alive and well in this world.

Anyway, I got a lot of this info from IPS News Agency. They’re a dope resource about gender inequality. If we can’t have public water supply across impoverished countries, at least we can help create wells where poor communities need them most. Head over to Water.org and sign up to make regular donations so hopefully in our lifetime, we can stop seeing incidents of this nature happening to people whose lives are already pretty bad.

Every little helps.

Stay safe.

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  In the middle of the wild, in the hot sun, fetching heavy containers of water – and they’re so young!

Related reading: Separated Unity

The Female Pandemic Worse Than COVID

It’s crazy how much gender inequality exists. It’s like the more you look, the more you find. I think if you would really know all the messed-upness of the world and the extent of all the crap that exists, you’d probably lose your mind. That’s why we have people who know this and people who know that. Thank God we have God, though. At least he can handle it (although he’s probably dismayed. Like look at what we did to his masterpiece! Anyway).

The AIDS epidemic, that never stopped by the way, is disproportionately a female problem rather than a male one. Strange when you think of all the sexual violence that’s committed and all the impregnation caused and then bailed out on, are caused by males. Now, you could say prostitution causes a lot of the spread – but then again, what leads to the prostitution in the first place? It’s not like sex workers happily decide to join the industry.

Anyway!

Females, in the main demographics of young adults and adults worldwide, account for the majority of people infected with and living with HIV. AIDS is basically a female problem. It’s not sexist to say that, but here are some depressing statistics below to cheer you up and throw your mood right out the window. Courtesy UN Women:

• Globally, in 2016 there were an estimated 17.8 million women living with HIV (15 and older), constituting 52 per cent of all adults living with HIV.
• Young women and adolescent girls aged 15-24 are particularly affected. Globally, in 2016 there were an estimated 2.4 million adolescent girls and young women living with HIV, that constitute 61 per cent of all young people living with HIV (15-24).
• In 2016, of the total estimated 1.7 million new HIV infections among adults (15 and older) globally, 790,000 or 48 per cent were among women.
• 59 per cent of new HIV infections among young persons aged 15-24 in 2016 occurred among adolescent girls and young women.

Furthermore, the regions worst affected globally are Africa, the Middle East and Eurasia. See below:

• In sub-Saharan Africa, women comprised 56 per cent of new infections among adults (15 and older); and the proportion was higher among young women aged 15-24, who made up 67 per cent of new infections among young people.
• In the Caribbean, women represented 45 per cent of newly infected adults; while young women aged 15-24 made up 52 per cent of new infections.
• In Eastern Europe and Central Asia, women accounted for 42 per cent of new HIV infections; however, among young women aged 15-24, the numbers reached a staggering 57 per cent of new infections.
• In the Middle East and North Africa, women comprised 38 per cent of newly infected adults; whereas young women aged 15-24 made up 49 per cent of new infections.

You also don’t wanna be a prostitute in this world, once again, as the risk of getting infected with HIV is almost twenty times higher than that of other non-commercial-sex-working women able to give birth.

• Specific groups of women are disproportionately affected by HIV. An analysis of studies measuring the pooled prevalence of HIV in 50 countries estimated that, globally, female sex workers are approximately 14 times more likely to be infected than other women of reproductive age.

Child marriage does a great job at spreading HIV. Almost a billion living women were married before their 18th birthday. 7 out of every 10 adolescent girls and young women have no clue about sexual education and HIV prevention. Hence, their ignorance (to no fault of their own) prevents them from insisting that their sex partners use condoms, or practice safe sex.

• Worldwide more than 700 million women alive today were married before their eighteenth birthday. They often have limited access to prevention information and limited power to protect themselves from HIV infection.
• Globally, only 3 in every 10 adolescent girls and young women aged 15-24 years have comprehensive and accurate knowledge about HIV. The lack of information on HIV prevention and the power to use this information in sexual relationships, including in the context of marriage, undermines women’s ability to negotiate condom use and engage in safer sex practices.

I’m not gonna get to deep into this. It’s depressing as I read it. More from UN Women:

• Women living with HIV are more likely to experience violence, including violations of their sexual and reproductive rights. Involuntary and coerced sterilization and forced abortion among women living with HIV has been reported in at least 14 countries worldwide.
• Women’s access to property and inheritance rights can be critical in preventing HIV. A baseline study conducted in nine countries (Cameroon, Ghana, Kenya, Malawi, Nigeria, Rwanda, United Republic of Tanzania, Uganda, and Zimbabwe) found that stigma associated with HIV-positive status was a significant deterrent to reporting or pursuing property and inheritance rights violations.
• Legal norms directly affect women’s risk of acquiring HIV. In many countries where women are most at risk, laws to protect them are weak. A lack of legal rights reinforces the subordinate status of women, especially in relation to women’s rights to divorce, to own and inherit property, to enter into contracts, to sue and testify in court, to consent to medical treatment and to open a bank account.
• Discriminatory criminalization laws linked to HIV can disproportionately affect women, as they are more likely to be tested and know their status through antenatal care. HIV-positive mothers are criminals under all of the HIV laws of West and Central Africa, which explicitly or implicitly forbid them from being pregnant or breastfeeding, lest they transmit the virus to the fetus or child.

Here’s how the world’s been dealing with AIDS:

• At 46 per cent, global coverage of antiretroviral therapy had reached 17 million people at the end of 2015. Gains were greatest in the world’s most-affected region, Eastern and Southern Africa.
• Globally, 77 per cent of pregnant women have been accessing antiretroviral medicines to prevent mother-to-child transmission of HIV. Still, more than half of the UNAIDS Global Plan’s 21 priority countries are failing to meet the needs for family planning among at least 25 per cent of all married women.
• Governments increasingly recognize the importance of gender equality in national HIV responses. However, only 57 per cent (of 104 reporting countries) included a specific budget.

According to Avert, a leading platform on HIV/AIDS resources, ‘AIDS-related illnesses remain the leading cause of death for women aged between 15 and 49.’

Speaking more on Africa, ‘In sub-Saharan Africa, despite making up just 10% of the population, one out of every five new HIV infections happens among adolescent girls and young women. In the worse-affected countries, 80% of new HIV infections among adolescents are among girls, who are up to eight times more likely to be living with HIV than adolescent boys. It is estimated that around 50 adolescent girls die every day from AIDS-related illnesses. In East and Southern Africa young women will acquire HIV five to seven years earlier than their male peers. In the region, seven young women become newly infected with HIV for every three young men. In western and central Africa, five young women become HIV-positive for every three new infections among young men.’

“This epidemic unfortunately remains an epidemic of women.”

– Michel Sidibé, former executive director of UNAIDS 

• HIV disproportionately affects women and adolescent girls because of vulnerabilities created by unequal cultural, social and economic status.
• Unaccommodating attitudes towards sex outside of marriage and the restricted social autonomy of women and young girls can reduce their ability to access sexual health and HIV services.

Avert goes in great detail to explain why and how mostly females suffer from HIV/AIDS, and I’m not gonna go into it all, but one point that sticks out to me is poverty being a huge proponent of females in general being infected with, living with and dying from the disease. It also links the socio-economic condition to the unfortunate need of having to submit to prostitution. You don’t want to be a financially-poor female in this world.

‘Poverty is an overarching factor that increases vulnerability to, and the impact of, HIV. The poorest women may have little choice but to adopt behaviours that put them at risk of infection, including transactional and intergenerational sex, early marriage, and relationships that expose them to violence and abuse. Poorer and less-educated women may be less knowledgeable about risks and therefore less able to adopt HIV risk-reducing behaviours.

The risk of trafficking and sexual exploitation is also higher for young women and adolescent girls, especially those living in poverty. Food insecurity, often linked to poverty, acts as a barrier to treatment for women living with HIV. This increases both the risk of HIV advancing within the body, leading to ill health, and onward transmission.’

There are tons of factors outlined in the report, too grim for me to address. You do the reading, I’ve led you to the source.

You know, I chose to call this blog ‘Mother Nature’ as an ode to all females because by merit of their gender, every female is a Mother Nature in her own right. The name is however satirically inclined as I juxtapose the overarching authority of the mythical figure (one which every female therefore also has), with the harsh reality of females being by and large overwhelmingly subjugated, violated and being acted unjust against. I thought it was a ‘dope’ idea when I started over 10 years ago but when I see content like this… I realize there’s nothing to be proud of. Like I said in the beginning of this article, when you know just how bad this world is, you get depressed. It literally dumps on your mood. And you can say stuff like ‘You don’t wanna be a woman in these things.’ like it’s OK, when in actual fact being female must be dope af. You can give birth, nurture kids, be naturally closer to them than their dads, socially accommodate a community, and make a house a home. But when you appreciate how dark the world is for most females, you can’t help but to make that statement…

You really don’t wanna be a woman in this world.

Politically correct, self-righteous women, attack me all you want. I really couldn’t care less.

Check out some more links on the issue, below.

WHO Global Map of HIV/AIDS Distribution

More WHO HIV/AIDS Info

Chart of Top Pandemics in the World (AIDS is in the top 5, COVID is barely in the top 10)

Google SERP: female population of aids in the world

Practice safe sex. Whether you’re in a relationship, marriage or not, don’t take your sexual/reproductive health for granted. HIV/AIDS is a killer and no matter how much antiretrovirals have advanced, the disease still kills you in a cruel way once infected. It is absolutely no joke!

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  Vineeth, 7 months old male kid, reported HIV-positive lying at an orphanage in Madras, India, Tuesday 29th November, 2005. Vineeth abandoned by his parent at Guild of Service and transfered to Community Health Education Society (CHES), an orphanage for HIV/AIDS infected, affected and Vulnerable Children, funded by Family Health International, Washington D.C. More than 40 million people worldwide are living with HIV/AIDS, according to latest figures from UNAIDS. World Aids Day will be observed on Dec. 1. (AP photo/ M.Lakshman)

Play safe.

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  Never share needles.

Stop HIV/AIDS discrimination.

Universal Slavery

Another pic from my Facebook in 2015. I’ve talked about these stats previously on this blog. People always think slavery was the Trans-Atlantic one of Black Africans. That was only the boldest, most pronounced one.

Slavery never ended. From human trafficking, sex trafficking & gender inequality, slavery all over the world is very much alive and well. And females are the biggest exploited & most unacknowledged commodity on the planet. And the slave traders, the perpetrators are all men. It’s the largest organized crime network known to man but denied by governments (because most government ‘leaders’ sexploit women behind the scenes too, like Berlusconi).

In the sex trafficking industry, women are also involved in the trafficking, but they’re mainly reduced to the roles of ‘madames’ of brothels and handlers of victims (sometimes – handlers are usually men because they exercise force and violence).

Keep on thinking because there’s JLo, Queen Elizabeth & Christine Lagarde that women have it well.

You couldn’t be more fooled.

Slavery never ended.

To get more information about gender inequality and how you can help eradicate it, check out Plan International, the guys who made this pic.

Happy end of lockdown.

Prostitution as Tradition

Happy new year. I just saw a report on Al Jazeera about a community in India where the people are so poor, they prostitute their females for economic necessity. Parents pimp their daughters into the sex trade so that they can have food to eat for their entire families. In fact, when daughters are born, the parents are happy because they know once the girls reach 10 years of age, they’ll become sex workers. Yes, at 10 years.

You can sleep with a 10 year old virgin for as low as 5000 Rupees or about $70, in some cases. Generally, however, the younger the sex worker, the more you pay. Young virgins are the most expensive and are literally auctioned to depraved men. The older a sex worker gets, the less it costs to sleep with her. The young girls can cost 30,000 to 40,000 Rupees. When a man ‘wins’ the auction, he celebrates by eating chicken and drinking beer. A girl’s psychology is going to get shattered and she’ll effectively be raped. It’s going to be a good night.

The mothers who pimp their daughters aren’t too happy about their kids’ fate. As females themselves, they wish their kids had a better future and wouldn’t have to engage in the traumatizing act. But their families are piss-poor and they’re simply tapping into a demand that at least gives them something.

This community is apparently near some really long highway where loads of truckers pass regularly and when these drivers get horny, they pitstop near the community and sleep with a girl. Among these truckers are pedophiles who have slept with 14 year old girls. These men are on the road half a year, away from their families so they feel justified to pay for (underage) sex. Jerking off to porn won’t do. There is a high prevalence of AIDS among the sex workers and the truckers alike. It’s so bad that the truckers even wear two condoms just not to get infected. Wearing more than one condom is actually dangerous as it may slide off or break entirely, leaving the guy at a higher risk of contracting sex diseases or HIV.

There are some people within this community, however, who are tackling this problem from the root and are re-orientating mothers about pimping their daughters, and teaching female children to shun the sex trade and seek education and become professionals instead. May this great initiative work.

It’s heartbreaking to know things like this happen and very little is done about it. We live in a world where women are just not given as much value as men. They’re seen as ultimately inferior humans who cannot be given the same privileges as men. I don’t care how many feminist Western women will attack me because they feel insulted in their ego. You don’t live in the world. You live in a suburb of the megacity called Earth. In your offices you contend with the glass ceiling. Even in your revered Hollywood, women don’t earn as much as men. So stick to your Starbucks cafe and flex to your following on Instagram.

My heart goes out to these sex workers, these young, traumatized, abused girls. I refuse to call them prostitutes because they never chose to go into this deplorable trade. Whenever their bodies are being used by men, they feel helpless, alone and abandoned in this world. And nobody is out to help them. It’s sad. It’s really sad!

And all people like me can do is write about it and hope to raise awareness about it. Because that’s the kind of world we live in.

Blessings to all victims of gender inequality, especially to (young) girl sex workers and their older counterparts. May God watch over you and protect you the most!

Amen.

For further research, check Al Jazeera

Would you?

Female (& Male) Exploitation Part 4: Pornography

Pornography is pretty influential on the Internet. Don’t believe it? Then you haven’t been online long enough. Here are some interesting websites I’d like to share with you:

• Porn Stats
• Porn Info
• More Porn Stats
• More Porn Info

Watching porn reduces your living value. It erodes your morals. It burns your sense of decency regarding love/courtship like a light-stick to a fire-cracker. It animalizes you, if that’s a word but now it is, and makes you feel women are objects solely designed to provide men with sexual pleasure. It never makes you see the opposite sex the way you ever did before. Compare the way you were before you first got introduced to porn, to the way you are now, having experienced whatever you’ve experienced. I, for a FACT, know I’m not as light & innocent as I used to be, before adult mags got lent to me. And No, I don’t think that’s part of becoming an adult. Unless I’m terribly misinformed.

Porn is like a black hole: Once you’re in, you’re sucked deeper & deeper, realizing it virtually has no limit at all. A good way of finding out is turning off the search filter of a search engine & searching for porn in general: By clickling through the links of the first page, you typically get some websites that contain dozens of thumb-sized porn pics. Every one of those links, leads you to another pornsite, often of the same format of the one you’re on. However the subject matter increases, meaning you get more ‘quality’ than you first got. What’s disturbing is that by starting from a niche like teen porn, for example, these sublayers of pornsites lurking  beneath the surface, can seem to show the teen actresses as younger & younger. It doesn’t take long before you come across a picture where you realize the actress is younger than a teenager! To the perverted, pedophile mind, therefore, some forms of child pornography are publicly available, and a lot more accessible than people think! Hurrah! We’ve made a section of the crime mainstream!

Porn consumption increases your tolerance to more, higher-intensity porn, which in turn increases your acceptance level for anything twisted, like bestiality etc. You become a pawn of the provider, susceptible to ANYthing it deems fit to show you. Your individual ability to control yourself therein gets slaughtered ascendingly with every visit. Porn-sites are typically also infamous havens of Trojans, viruses & all other stuff to give your firewall a headache. It’s pointless to prosecute anyone though, as most providers only let the cat out of the bag, if you’ve consented your agreement to them serving adult content & you being of adult age. Blaming them for any damage caused by immorality is like complaining to a weapons manufacturer for developing a gun you just bought, for being able to kill somebody!

Porn is highly addictive. A lot of people who consume it, don’t even realize they’re addicted. Porn ruins quality of life/interaction-skills with the opposite sex. Something as simple & pleasurable as dating, becomes… Houston, we have a problem. Abort! Abort!

Watching excessive porn over longer periods confuses your sexuality: It’s not exactly normal to see naked members of your gender in your life, at regular intervals. For example, a guy at most sees another naked guy or naked guys when showering together in a locker room, as part of the sports team. Or when going to a public swimming-pool & changing/showering over there. Basically, there’s not a whole lot of amount guys see other guys naked. I presume so  about girls as well, but feel free to prove me wrong. Lots of regular porn introduces an artificially high amount of nudity of the same sex in your awareness & sustains it. The result? You become desensitized a whole lot more than otherwise, tending to see sexual practices on your sex by your sex as normal. If you’re not straight, then I guess viewing porn just reinforces your sexuality. Stating this, I’m not accusing any sexuality of good or bad. If you’re not secure in your heterosexuality however, habitually watching porn may not be a good idea. But suit yourself!

Porn gives unrealistic expectations of love & sex: In a nutshell, men think they have to be built like Vin Diesel to get laid & women think being like Angelina Jolie brings all the action. Thank you, porn!

Most porn is targeted at men. A large part of male-oriented porn is female-degrading.

People are different but in my experience, women consider foreplay as an integral part of lovemaking. Acknowledging how much the world has gone to the dogs nontheless, I concur that such stance may be viewed as subjective.

Men who watch porn over long periods of time, become unable of regarding females as equal human beings, simply because they think of them by their vagina. In this case, it’s common to ponder over what sexual benefit a female could provide, regularly, than focusing otherwise.

The last point is a strong factor of sexual violence & rapes against females, worldwide. It’s often said it’s the last stop before committing sexual crimes.

Another great lie porn conditions its plentiful patrons is an orgasm being the most important part of sex.

This is not true.

The point before the previous one destroys the sex lives of many women because it leaves them sexually unsatisfied. Men, by nature, ejaculate quicker than women. I’ll say on average but I don’t think there’s anything to be ashamed of, therefore I don’t see any reason for my ego to kick in.

Women love sex just as much as men do. Unofficially, it’s believed they enjoy it even more,… I wouldn’t mind having multiple orgasms. Porn conditions porn-watching men that sex is geared towards male satisfaction.

Sex is an interaction, not a service.

The penultimate point gives a landscape of opportunities: Men can seek & get away with it because it allows them to degenerate & treat women like filth, in an almost countless variety of ways.

Don’t get me started.

For fear of SOPA, PIPA & ACTA, I will not name any studios because they have a lot of money & may shut me down.

But they’re out there.

And I watch them.

And this is what compelled me to post this article. I think women should be treated with respect & not turned into mindless, mal-treated, submissive animals during sex. I do like some of the porn stars, by the way. Ravishing women! I’m not gonna name them either because they have a lot of money too and might sue me.

Or just join the studios & shut me down.

But I like ’em anyway. I see them as humans.

Not recyclable trash-bags everybody can come on.

Get it?

Yeah, women have their wishes, which usually have to be fulfilled if you want to get some but overall, a rather disturbing point is PORN DEGENERATES PORN-PATRONS, WHO MORE OFTEN THAN NOT ARE MALE, TO SEE & TREAT WOMEN AS TRASH WHO ARE ONLY GOOD TO GET THEM OFF.

Why do I keep saying trash?

Maybe because porn sees & treats women as such. Here are some recommendations.

The movie 8mm starring Nicolas Cage is an excellent example of the porn industry, albeit a certain layer hidden from the public (ironic), which thrives. Note how his character becomes more & more disturbed by what he encounters.

Snuff movies exist & they make the Internet a crime scene.

Imagine being murdered live, or raped live – or raped then murdered, live!

You think I’m sick? That feeling doesn’t even begin to describe a fraction of a percent of the total, twisted, demented, rotten & super-dark quality of that industry itself.

Therefore, I don’t care because you don’t know what you’re talking about.

Or thinking.

Don’t shoot the messenger.

I don’t even know what I’m talking about…or typing, I’ve never seen a snuff movie before. I wouldn’t know where to look , it’s very ‘insider’ stuff.

And porn is a part of it, even if they are not aware of it.

So the next time you knock one out, be aware of what you’re knocking out to. A lot of purely insane stuff are part of the machinery that drives this very, very, big, big, global, multi-billion dollar industry. Like the Titanic & the tip of the iceberg: There’s more than meets the eye!

P.S. I talk about grey areas because not enough do. By choosing not to, grey areas fester & linger in our existence, eventually becoming  inherent facets of our societies, if they haven’t already done so. So, SPEAK!